Are you an energy mirror?

Have you been feeling physical or emotional pain that is similar to others who are close to you or that you’re working with?

Are you a heart centered individual who gives more than receives?

As energy beings we are constantly absorbing and releasing energy around us. Our field filters in what’s helpful and not, yet with so much stimulation occurring within and around us, sometimes we lose our balance. Losing our balance can occur on various levels in our lives yet show up through physical or emotional pain as that is how our body communicates with us. Also, the universe throws mirrors in our lives as we are confronted with situations, experiences or people that mirror our challenges or issues we need to improve so we can continue on our path towards self-actualization or connecting to spirit.

Recently a Reiki student told me how she was struggling with low back pain which has been affecting her daily life. We discussed how the pain was related to the sacral chakra, relationships, flow, sexual energy. She then mentioned doing energy work with the client, not Reiki, which dealt with releasing energetic attachments from a traumatic loss. She added that her client had been struggling with low back pain and her own pain started after the energetic session.

Have you been protecting yourself with Reiki?, I asked her.

No, she replied, how do I do that?

As she discussed when the pain arose, work with her client, and other issues coming up in her life, she began to connect the dots.

So, now that the awareness is there, next step is the protection and taking care of self.

As a Reiki practitioner or energy healer, it’s important to protect yourself before and after sessions. Also, taking care of yourself is important. As heart centered individuals taking care of yourself with even 5 minutes of time for you allows you to balance yourself again.

Below I have identified 5 ways you can energetically protect and take care of yourself, regardless if you’re an energy practitioner or not.

5 steps to protect yourself energetically

  1. Intention: Before a troubling situation or working with clients/customers, set an intention that you will be protected and ask for support from God/spirit/angels. I usually imagine myself surrounded by white light, like a bubble. Reiki 2 and up practitioners, use the power and distant symbol before each session.
  2. Dust the energy off: Imagine the energy you have absorbed after a session or challenging situation as dust. Using intention and action, state that you will release the energy while also brushing the energy off with your hands. Begin with left hand over right arm and switch, same with left hand over right leg and switch, then both hands dusting off front and back. Clap your hands to end it.
  3. Cutting ties: Similar to dusting the energy, this concept is more about cutting ties. After working with traumatic situations with clients, state your intention (out loud or in your head) to cut energetic ties and release any attachments. With your hands acting like a knife, imagine slicing down your front and back stating the intention.
  4. 5 minute self-care: We’re all busy rushing from one place to another, yet giving yourself 5 minutes will help your energy remain balanced throughout the day. After each session or client leaves (if able), set an alarm for 5 minutes and sit quietly without interruptions. Focus on your breath, breathing in and out of your mouth. Allow the thoughts to float away without focusing on them.
  5. Gratitude: Always take a few moments after each session to identify 3 ways you are grateful (action you did, thanking God/spirit/angels for assistance, being present, etc).

Implementing one or all of these tips into your daily self-care practice will liberate you from energetic attachments which has been brought on by stressful situations or people you are working with. By engaging in these practices you will remain balanced and protected from absorbing issues other people are struggling with.

Please share with me your experience with energetic attachments and if any of these tips were helpful to you. Connect with me via email at or visit my website, to learn more about me and my work.

Blessings and health,
Paty Hernandez, MSW, MPH, CHC

Playing small

Playing small to me implies not pushing through my fears in order to be successful in my life. Recently, I was reminded how I am continuing to play small by not having the confidence in what I do. This has been a constant debate within myself and I have moments of clarity with progress and other times moments of doubt. My intellectual mind understands this, yet my emotional mind is what keeps me in my comfort zone.

Throughout this year I have placed myself in numerous opportunities to push past my fears of sharing my work with others. Every time has been successful yet limiting because I would shrug back from the light when feelings of fear started showing up.

This week I am choosing to change that. I have found in the past I work best within a structured environment, which I have been lacking. As an entrepreneur I have appreciated not having a 9-5pm structure yet I’m becoming aware that this lack of structure is causing me to work long hours scattered throughout the week. By my calculations, I’m working 60 hours a week without much direction.

I have decided to change it by taking my business more seriously, which means creating a structure and specific goals. I have been following various successful entrepreneurs and even downloaded their helpful resources, yet without action it means nothing. Now, I have a plan to share my knowledge and promote my healing work to those who vibe with what I have to say.


However, the first step towards structure begins with my self-care. Therefore, I am establishing a positive ritual every morning that consists of meditation, positive affirmations, exercise, gratitude, and a healthy breakfast. By taking care of me first I feel more energized and motivated to move forward in my life. I am playing big because I’m taking care of myself so I can show up in an authentic and loving way.

By raising my vibration through structure and creating my reality, I can then share more positively my message and assist in creating a happy and healthy world. Owning my worth and believing I have value to share is what drives me forward, even past my fears.

How do you feel you’re playing small in your life?

Book a Healthy Check-In Session with me and let’s discuss any blocks you may have in your life or struggles with playing small.  I’m here to support you with a step-by-step plan to balance your life, embrace your power, and focus on health.

Celebrating all Mothers

Mothers are women who dedicate their lives with unconditional love to their children

Growing up I used to love Mother’s Day as it was a tradition between my sister and I to make breakfast for our mom, buy her flowers, and make her a card. As I grew older and traveled more, the tradition lessened as I wasn’t physically present, so I would send her flowers or gifts and a card. Plus, I would always call her in the mornings because I knew it brightened her day.

Now, I celebrate Mother’s Day either at the cemetery or spending time with my family; father, brother, and his family. Although she’s gone, we still honor her and click our wine glasses to her memory. It has now been 2 years since she has passed,  yet it seems like yesterday when I was cooking for her and watching funny movies. I miss her everyday and am so thankful for her presence in my life. As my mother’s health decreased our roles reversed as I became the caretaker and she received. It was a truly humbling experience for both of us and I am grateful for it.

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Choosing to be a mother takes courage, dedication, and unconditional love among many other attributes. These are virtues that become stronger as both you and the child(ren) continue to grow. A mother, doesn’t simply mean biologically speaking as I know many mothers who have adopted, fostered or taken in children through various means.

I may not understand all the trials and tribulations a mother goes through because I have never given birth nor raised a child for long periods of time, yet I have worked with numerous women who are are so burnt out and stressed because they feel they have to be everything for everyone yet have forgotten to take care of themselves or worse, feel guilty because they want personal time.

The closest I have been to being a mother was in my 20s when I helped raise my ex-boyfriend’s young child for the 2 years we were together as the mother was unfit physically and emotionally. Being a mother in this respect and also in my career as a social worker, brought me to a new understanding of mothers, regardless of how children came to be a part of their lives. Now I’m the godmother of my 5 year old nephew and I take seriously the role of being present with him to the best of my abilities with the understanding that I take full responsibility of him in case something happens to my brother and his wife.

I believe the role of mothers or people with mother-like tendencies want to to ensure that the children in their care (teachers count too) are given unconditional love (may not like all that kids do, but love them regardless. Being a mother is one of the most challenging and rewarding roles because it entails taken on numerous responsibilities from meeting all of their needs; physical, mental, spiritual and emotional plus perhaps being a spouse, employee, student, caretaker, etc. Also, I have witnessed it is a role that never ends as children (myself included) usually return home for one reason or another.

As our world has become more industrialized and we require more needs to feel fulfilled, mothers have many more roles than before which is daunting. Most mothers I have seen rely on being superwoman, meaning you take care of it all without much help. However, that soon leads to burnout because you’ve taken on so much on your own without too much support. This can then lead to chronic illness, fatigue, headaches, digestive issues, etc. As the African saying goes,” it takes a village to raise a child,” meaning it takes everyone in the household, external family, and community to help mothers.

“Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare. Audre Lorde

This mother’s day I challenge you to find ways you can release some of your responsibilities, even for a day or two, and remember what it’s like to be a woman. What are ways you can love yourself unconditionally? Massage? A day to yourself? Chores done by others? Husband cooking and caring for kids? Family meeting to discuss chores delegation? Whatever it is ask for what you want, stop holding back what you truly want to say.

Allow yourself to be pampered by telling those around you what it is that would bring you joy and happiness on this day and everyday. This allows you to receive love and support which offers balance as it is more common within the roles of being a mother to give more than to receive.

Thank you for taking on the responsibility and role of caring for your children, our future, so they may grow up kind, loving, and peaceful into this world. I know you take this role very seriously and I appreciate you for all you do, just as I appreciated my mom while she was present with us.

Book a Healthy Check-In Session with me and let’s discuss how you would like to receive more love and support in your life. I’m here to support you with a step-by-step plan to balance your life, embrace your power, and focus on health.