A few weeks ago I wrote about happiness
being an intention which in turn assists you in being motivated to do more things to be in a constant state of happiness.
is an emotion, energy in motion, which entails steps as you continue striving for it. Yet sometimes our happy balloon get popped when situations out of our control occur which can trigger us and cause us to feel down, unhappy or really angry. These are feelings too which can be dispersed when we remind ourselves (thoughts) that we want to be happy and focus on the feeling we most want.
I have identified 8 questions that are insightful about what motivates you towards happiness. You can answer them out loud or journal them. I invite you to reply to this email as I’d love to hear from you and share with me your responses to these questions.
1. What do I really want?
This is a very general question. I’ll make it easy for you. I’ve broken this question down into 7 aspects that I call the holistic balance. I use this in my coaching program, however, I’ll share it with you so you too can identify what you want.
Find what you want for each aspect and then choose 3 aspects you want to focus on, then create small, tangible steps that are easy to accomplish. The form will be emailed to me which I can then share with you by email and/or a complimentary call to go over the form.
for my online calendar to schedule your transformation consultation.
2. If I were to focus on change would it be for myself or someone else?
Change is a part of our lives and it happens on a daily basis. For example, a break in any routine is a change. The point of my question is to ensure if you are purposely changing any aspect of yourself for you or based on someone else’s expectations.
For example, if you wanted to release (I don’t like to use lose because it’s about releasing it so it doesn’t come back) weight, would you do it for your personal health or to shut up others who criticize your size?
By identifying who you are really wanting to change for and what you want to release in your life then you will understand your source of motivation.
3. What will I gain if I change?
We are pleasure seeking individuals. Therefore, if we want to change it’s because we are wanting to improve ourselves. Having goals is great yet knowing the purpose of the outcome is even better. Back to the releasing weight example; what will improve when you let go of your excess weight? By focusing on your gains then you will have more motivation to change.
4. Am I comfortable with how I’m living and being?
There’s always the easy way and the right way when it comes to deciding what goes with what you want to change. Being comfortable can occur in various ways. For example, you can be very comfortable in your current relationship with your partner yet you’re frustrated because the relationship is not growing, you don’t feel passion or you can’t remember the last time you had fun together.
My point is that by being too comfortable it creates a fear that to change will cause an unhappy and painful disruption to your life, therefore you create numerous excuses as to why change can’t happen. Final question, what’s the worst thing that can happen if you were to change your comfort level?
5. Have I done enough for myself?
Taking care of you is a must and a top priority. This entails identifying in each aspect what is one thing you can do for yourself everyday. For example, in releasing weight you will want to incorporate healthy yet yummy foods, discover exciting ways to move and raise your heartbeat, and taking time to be grateful for each day. If you’re not putting yourself as number 1, then who are you putting first?
6. Am I happy where I am today?
If you answered no, then what would it take to say yes? What needs to happen for you to feel happy? Remember happiness is an emotion, therefore it’s not what you do that’s important, it’s how you feel. So, if you think you need more money, a better partner, etc. then think again. These are irrelevant because it all starts with where you are right now. Yes, having more money may make certain situations easier and more comfortable but it doesn’t necessarily make you happier.
7. What motivates me?
There are so many ways that can make everyone happy and that is what makes each of us unique. Finding your motivation may be different from another person, so STOP comparing yourself to others. We are all on our own journey in this life and we walk our path in different ways.
Create a collage of what brings you happiness or a vision board. You can do this on poster board or pinterest / Instagram
(please share it with me). By finding images and words that instill happiness in your life then you will find what motivates you. It could be your family, friends, your purpose on this earth, etc. Plus it helps if you put this collage in a place you see everyday so it reminds you of what brings you happiness.
8. What really makes you, You?
Who you define yourself to be is incorporated from the day you were born and all the experiences you’ve had up to now. We have all experienced going through “phases” as though trying on different costumes figuring who we want to be like. Who you really are comes down to your values. Do you value community? Honesty? Love? Integrity? Motivation? Balance? Etc. Identify at least 3 values that make up your foundation and focus on activities that really draw them out. If you don’t know, then research (google it) “values” and identify 3 key values you want to incorporate more into your life.
In conclusion, by answering these 8 questions you will have a clearer idea of what motivates you. Once you know what motivates you then it’s about making small steps towards the goals you want to accomplish. However, the best support comes from those you surround yourself with. So create a community, call upon people who you know will support you or contact me and let’s work together on building you up today for a healthier and happier you.
Thank you for being a part of my expanding family.
Love and hugs,
Paty, La Mariposa