9 ways to empower your communication

How often have you become stressed out because you felt misunderstood or not listened to by someone? 
Communication, a major trigger point for stressful situations, is the foundation for how we interact with others. From individual conversations to talk shows; radio programs; clubs dedicated to public speaking; business meetings, etc.
Communication entails both verbal and non verbal ways. It’s not always what you say that hurts, it’s your actions that truly define the truth. certain rules still apply when it comes to interaction through words.
A tip I learned years ago while as an undergraduate that I repeat on a consistent basis is “Say what you mean, mean what you say, and don’t say it mean.”
What’s your  favorite tip that’s helpful when you communicate?
Let’s review ways to empower your communication so you can improve any relationship, especially with yourself. 
1. What you know
Education is all about learning the basics and to be an effective speaker is to practice what you’ve learned. Take classes at school, such as public speaking or drama to learn techniques. Or read more articles like this or watch videos related to communication. Most importantly get out there and make mistakes, then learn from them.
2. Listening
It’s just as important as asking questions. This is probably the hardest technique in communication. Take a moment to remember the last time you were conversing with someone and just as you were getting really into the story the person interrupted you to interject his/her own opinion. Truth is we all want to be heard and sometimes we also compete with others to ensure that we feel important. Fact is just allow the person to finish the conversation without personal interjection unless you have questions to encourage more details, will really allow the person to feel listened to.
3. Eye Contact
Put down that electronic gadget and look at the person speaking to you. By looking directly at the person who’s talking then you show you are fully engaged and that you care about what the person has to say to you. There’s a lot to say when it comes to directing your attention to your audience with an eye-catching gaze. Regardless if you are speaking to an individual or a group of people, it’s important that you keep your focus.
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4. Just kidding

Let your funny bone have a go at it when speaking to others. A little bit of humor can do wonders to lift the tension or worse boredom when talking. However, be mindful that your joke doesn’t offend others or is hurtful. Sarcasm is really the truth masquerading as a joke.

5. Join a tribe
Interaction is all about mingling with other people. By joining groups of people you feel comfortable in then you’ll get a lot of ideas, as well as observing how others communicate and learning new techniques you can incorporate.
6. Me, Myself, and I
Listening to the sound of your own voice while you practice what you want to say to an individual or a group of people will assist you in ensuring you are speaking from your truth. By speaking out loud what’s in your head you’ll hear what’s really true and what you’re projecting to others. With so many ideas and thoughts in our heads it can be overwhelming yet writing or speaking it out will clear it up in no time.
7. Say Cheese
A smile says it all much like eye contact. There’s no point on grimacing or frowning in a meeting or a gathering, unless it’s a wake. You can better express what you’re saying when you smile.
8. A Role Model
Find at least one or two people in your life you have listened to when they’re at a public gathering or maybe you’ve conversed with 1-1. Talk to them or observe how they communicate with others and identify techniques you would like to incorporate into your own life. I bet that they did the same thing so don’t think you’re “stealing” their moves. Rather you’re taking what seems possible for you and adapting it to your own way.
9. Preparation
Make the best out of preparation rather than just scribbling notes in a hurried panic. Some people like to write things down on index cards, while other resort to being a little more silly as they look at their notes written on the palm of their hand (not for clammy hands, please). This is helpful especially if you are facing a challenging discussion with someone. You can make a pointer list to identify all the points you want to discuss and why it’s important for you. Find the technique that works best for you and stick to it.
Communication is not just what you say but how you present yourself. These tips will help ensure you are present and focused regardless if you are speaking to one person or many people.
What was your favorite tip?
Feel free to reply to these blog as I’d love to hear from you.
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Thank you for being a part of my expanding family.

Love and hugs,

Paty,  La Mariposa  ​​​​​​​


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Let’s discuss any blocks you may have in your life or struggles with communication.
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What truly motivates you?

A few weeks ago I wrote about happiness being an intention which in turn assists you in being motivated to do more things to be in a constant state of happiness.
Happiness is an emotion, energy in motion, which entails steps as you continue striving for it. Yet sometimes our happy balloon get popped when situations out of our control occur which can trigger us and cause us to feel down, unhappy or really angry. These are feelings too which can be dispersed when we remind ourselves (thoughts) that we want to be happy and focus on the feeling we most want.
I have identified 8 questions that are insightful about what motivates you towards happiness. You can answer them out loud or journal them. I invite you to reply to this email as I’d love to hear from you and share with me your responses to these questions.
1. What do I really want?
This is a very general question. I’ll make it easy for you. I’ve broken this question down into 7 aspects that I call the holistic balance. I use this in my coaching program, however, I’ll share it with you so you too can identify what you want.
Click here for the holistic balance.
Find what you want for each aspect and then choose 3 aspects you want to focus on, then create small, tangible steps that are easy to accomplish. The form will be emailed to me which I can then share with you by email and/or a complimentary call to go over the form.
Click here for my online calendar to schedule your transformation consultation.
2. If I were to focus on change would it be for myself or someone else?
Change is a part of our lives and it happens on a daily basis. For example, a break in any routine is a change. The point of my question is to ensure if you are purposely changing any aspect of yourself for you or based on someone else’s expectations.
For example, if you wanted to release (I don’t like to use lose because it’s about releasing it so it doesn’t come back) weight, would you do it for your personal health or to shut up others who criticize your size?
By identifying who you are really wanting to change for and what you want to release in your life then you will understand your source of motivation.
3. What will I gain if I change?
We are pleasure seeking individuals. Therefore, if we want to change it’s because we are wanting to improve ourselves. Having goals is great yet knowing the purpose of the outcome is even better. Back to the releasing weight example; what will improve when you let go of your excess weight? By focusing on your gains then you will have more motivation to change.
4. Am I comfortable with how I’m living and being?
There’s always the easy way and the right way when it comes to deciding what goes with what you want to change. Being comfortable can occur in various ways. For example, you can be very comfortable in your current relationship with your partner yet you’re frustrated because the relationship is not growing, you don’t feel passion or you can’t remember the last time you had fun together.
My point is that by being too comfortable it creates a fear that to change will cause an unhappy and painful disruption to your life, therefore you create numerous excuses as to why change can’t happen. Final question, what’s the worst thing that can happen if you were to change your comfort level?
5. Have I done enough for myself?
Taking care of you is a must and a top priority. This entails identifying in each aspect what is one thing you can do for yourself everyday. For example, in releasing weight you will want to incorporate healthy yet yummy foods, discover exciting ways to move and raise your heartbeat, and taking time to be grateful for each day. If you’re not putting yourself as number 1, then who are you putting first?
6. Am I happy where I am today?
If you answered no, then what would it take to say yes? What needs to happen for you to feel happy? Remember happiness is an emotion, therefore it’s not what you do that’s important, it’s how you feel. So, if you think you need more money, a better partner, etc. then think again. These are irrelevant because it all starts with where you are right now. Yes, having more money may make certain situations easier and more comfortable but it doesn’t necessarily make you happier.
7. What motivates me?
There are so many ways that can make everyone happy and that is what makes each of us unique. Finding your motivation may be different from another person, so STOP comparing yourself to others. We are all on our own journey in this life and we walk our path in different ways.
Tip: Create a collage of what brings you happiness or a vision board. You can do this on poster board or pinterest / Instagram (please share it with me). By finding images and words that instill happiness in your life then you will find what motivates you. It could be your family, friends, your purpose on this earth, etc. Plus it helps if you put this collage in a place you see everyday so it reminds you of what brings you happiness.
8. What really makes you, You? 
Who you define yourself to be is incorporated from the day you were born and all the experiences you’ve had up to now. We have all experienced going through “phases” as though trying on different costumes figuring who we want to be like. Who you really are comes down to your values. Do you value community? Honesty? Love? Integrity? Motivation? Balance? Etc. Identify at least 3 values that make up your foundation and focus on activities that really draw them out. If you don’t know, then research (google it) “values” and identify 3 key values you want to incorporate more into your life.
In conclusion, by answering these 8 questions you will have a clearer idea of what motivates you. Once you know what motivates you then it’s about making small steps towards the goals you want to accomplish. However, the best support comes from those you surround yourself with. So create a community, call upon people who you know will support you or contact me and let’s work together on building you up today for a healthier and happier you.

Thank you for being a part of my expanding family.

Love and hugs,

Paty,  La Mariposa  

Book a complimentary discovery session with me 

Let’s discuss the holistic balance assessment once you have completed it.
I’m here to support you with a step-by-step plan to balance your life, embrace your power, and focus on health.

Balance your chakras with oils and crystals

This year I set an intention for abundant collaboration with others to increase my community and bring more amazing healing tools to you. I’m so excited to announce that one of my collaborations has come to fruition which can be shared with you. You may remember that last year I offered chakra bracelets for a limited time in which oils could be added to them as they had lava beads to balance the chakras. They were a hit and sold out quickly. I didn’t purchase more because of issues with the distributor so I asked the universe for support in finding another person. After a discussion with my best friend Libby she offered to create the bracelets and essential oil blends to assist people in finding their balance.
Libby created three options based on specific issues my clients struggle with on a daily basis; healer’s balm (stress reduction), Peaceful Ease (anxiety reduction), and Inner Happiness (depression struggles). Each set includes a bottle of essential oils and the bracelet. I will also be offering a free 15 minute phone call to go over the crystals and how you can use the oils.
Each set is only $30 plus shipping. 
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I will infuse the bracelets with Reiki and the specific crystals for holistic health. Crystals, as you may know, are powerful energy releasers and by wearing them you will feel more grounded and centered. Plus they are beautiful and great conversation starters. The essential oils also offer stability as you place them on your skin, bracelet or simply inhale them.

They will make a great gift to anyone especially as Mother’s Day is coming up. Do yourself and your loved ones a favor by purchasing a Reiki blessed set of essential oil and a bracelet to assist you in achieving balance and happiness which are available for a limited time (until supplies are gone).

Reply and let me know which one calls to you and let’s get you feeling amazing again.
Pass this blog along to someone who may benefit from it as we all need love everyday!

Love and hugs,

Paty,  La Mariposa 

Book a complimentary discovery session with me 

Let’s discuss any blocks you may have in your life or struggles with feelings of being unbalanced.
I’m here to support you with a step-by-step plan to balance your life, embrace your power, and focus on health.

La Mariposa flies off to Costa Rica

My passport (my most treasured item) is once again nearby as I take off in a couple of days to Costa Rica for two weeks (April 2-14) for a facilitator training program for JourneyDance.

Costa Rica holds a special place in my heart because it reminds me of when my sister Yoli lived there, I taught my first Reiki workshop during a retreat with my friend Libby, solo trips in the mountains, and now this training program. Plus it’s the land of Pura Vida, pure life, as stated by all the Ticas (people from Costa Rica) and it’s absolutely beautiful.
During those two weeks I will be going through my own transformation as I focus on healing myself and also learn techniques to continue assisting others along their healing journey. Dancing and music are ancient techniques for stress release as they fill our bodies with happiness as we increase our vibrations. I will be participating in a fast track training program to become a facilitator in JourneyDance. I’m so excited about being able to put together my love of chakras and dancing to free energy that’s blocked in the body in a fun way.
JourneyDance is about allowing your body to flow naturally to the sounds of the music. There aren’t any steps to learn or techniques to follow. All it takes is your willingness to be free and let go of your insecurities. In this dance you will flow in ways you have never allowed yourself to move. Exciting right!!
I will be posting pictures and comments on my business Facebook, Instragram, and Twitter feeds during my trip so you can share the experience with me.
Then once I return I will be putting together classes in Miami and perhaps online so we can dance and be free together. Of course I’m open to traveling elsewhere and sharing the dance of life so contact me by replying and let’s plan it.
Thank you for being a part of my expanding family.

Love and hugs,

Paty,  La Mariposa  


Book a complimentary discovery session with me 

Let’s discuss any blocks you may have in your life or struggles with stagnation.
I’m here to support you with a step-by-step plan to balance your life, embrace your power, and focus on health.