How many times in the past 2 days did you say “I don’t know?”
Until recently I think I would have said it about 4-5 times a day yet it could be more depending on the conversation.
This could have been about anything as it was a default phrase stated when I didn’t have the answer off the top of my head or honestly when I didn’t want to put forth the effort of figuring it out.
This could be related to
- money management
- limiting beliefs
Once it was pointed out I looked within to figure out why I would say I don’t know.
I realized it was a term I used to avoid doing inner work and it would cause my procrastination to flourish.
What is the reason you say I don’t know?
It’s so easy to say I don’t know and not do anything to switch it around. It’s like a parent responding to a kid asking why with, just because.
Now that I’m aware of it I decided that it was a habit I wanted to change.
I’ve set the intention to be more aware of when I say it. When I do catch myself I then switch it to I’ll figure it out.
Are you now aware of how often you say I don’t know?
Now, when I feel it coming up as a thought, I take a deep breath and then think of how I can figure it out.
This awareness has helped me move more into decisive action. For instance, I’ve been figuring out many new things and my procrastination has diminished.
It’s still a work in progress which I constantly remind myself.
When changing a habit or way of life, it’s so important to be gentle with myself and I hope you’ll be too.
If you choose to accept this challenge along with me, I hope you keep in mind you’re changing a long standing habit. It takes constant focus and dedication which can be exhausting at times yet I promise you’ll be so much better for it. I know I am.
Honestly, it’s been quite an experience, one that I’m really proud of.
I’ve been able to accomplish more because I’m taking action.
I now know that saying I don’t know was due to my limiting belief around this and it was related to “I’m not worthy.” This one is huge for me and I know many of my clients struggle with this limiting belief too.
Do you struggle with this belief?
I’d like to share one example of a project I’ve been procrastinating on (at least a year) which was understanding how to make videos using my phone.
I would complain of how I didn’t know how to do it and watch in awe as others on social media posted these amazing videos. I sometimes belittled myself for it because I should know by now, comparing myself to others.
Can you relate to this internal conversation?
The other day when I caught myself eyeing another awesome video, I was reminded that I had a valuable source on my phone called Spark Video. It’s a free app I learned while in a social work conference earlier this year. It’s fun, check it out.
Last Monday I had an extensive amount of time as I flew back to Miami from San Diego from a 3 day business conference. Usually this is the time I take to clean off my computer desktop, watch movies or sleep (2 ways to procrasinate).
Instead I took the opportunity to learn how to create a video for my upcoming retreat using pictures I had on my phone as it’s been on my to do list for a month.
I’m very proud of myself for figuring it out. This is my first attempt making a video using the app on my phone.
I’ve since shared this video to numerous people with many positive responses. Now, I’d like to share it with you and request your feedback.
Also, I would really love to know if you capture the essence of the retreat, meaning do you understand what the video is about?
Click here to view the video.
If you’re interested in learning more about the retreat, click here for our landing page.
So, your heart-work is now to be more aware of when you say “I don’t know” and choose if you want to switch it to something more pro-active.
Feel free to reply and share your thoughts around this statement. I love to hear from you.
Peace and hugs,