5 Lessons I Learned From Living With Papi

Just the other day I heard someone groan, “Oh, I sound just like my mother/father.” Have you uttered these words before? This is a fear many of us have yet it’s important to really take an honest look at what it is we fear. Within my life I’ve heard this time and time again and I believe it’s fair to say that most if not all have mommy/daddy issues that cause them to struggle within their personal relationships. Granted our parents (or lack of) greatly impacted our lives as we grew up, especially if we held certain expectations of them or compared them to other parents. Honestly, I used to say the same thing until life circumstances and personal choices brought me back to living with Papi, my dad the man I had emotionally struggled with for many years. So, those daddy issues I had were about to be faced head on and it was my responsibility to identify the tools and resources so I could move forward.

As the youngest child of 3 I tethered most to Papi during my childhood, always feeling as though I was daddy’s little girl. I would always envision us spending time together and craved his attention whenever he was home from a business trip.  Yet that dream was shattered when the childhood home I grew up in was taken by the bank due to a bad business investment my parents took part in. For years I resented and blamed Papi for losing my home (never occurred to me to inquire how he felt about it) and then how he focused more on work than being with his family.

I didn’t realize then that my expectations of my dad and how I wanted him to be clouded my vision of what was reality. I knew in many ways I was very much like my dad, and was also told by others how similar we were in looks. For years, I would become upset whenever someone mentioned our similarities until I decided to look more closely at what characteristics we shared. Since 2014 I have been living with my dad which has been both a blessing and a challenge yet one I appreciate now every day for the lessons I have learned. Just this month I took the next step to move out on my own as we are both more emotionally and physically stable within our personal lives.

As I celebrate Father’s Day I am grateful for the opportunity the universe offered me and to learn how to accept him just as he is. I’ve taken 5 top lessons I’ve learned from Papi, which once drove me crazy yet now I realize how much they have positively influenced me. Most importantly though, the challenges I have faced while living with him from his sometimes egotistical behavior to his negative attitude towards life have encouraged me to focus more on compassion then frustration. After all, being annoyed with him for how he looks and experiences life is my problem and he has chosen how he wants to live his life even if I can’t always understand it.

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I thank him for being one of my teachers in life and am so grateful that he’s still with us today. I love him unconditionally even though I don’t always like or appreciate his actions or words.

5 lessons learned from Papi

1) It’s okay to talk to strangers: For as long as I could remember, I always saw my dad striking a conversation with just about anyone. We could be in the line at the airport, grocery store or eating a meal and he would begin to speak about anything and everything. He was so engaging with everyone. So naturally it was a skill I adapted to as I’ve always engaged with children and adults while traveling, waiting in line or just out and about. I’ve met amazing people by talking about the weather or comment on whatever they had in their hands. Simple conversations sometimes led to long lasting friendships. As a primarily solo traveler it’s been these conversations that have enhanced my trips and encouraged me to withdraw out of my sometimes introverted shell.

2) Delegate: I would always get so annoyed (sometimes still do) with my dad when he would call upon anyone (sometimes various times a day) in our family to help him even with the most simplest tasks. Seriously, I would think to myself as I pounded a nail into the wall or fixed something around the house, why couldn’t you just do it. Recently I learned that he would even pay the neighborhood kids to teach us how to ride our bikes during our childhood. Now instead of getting annoyed I actually marvel at how this man could delegate just about any task that he didn’t want to do and people would say yes. As I became more independent in life I took pride in being able to do just about anything myself yet that has also been a drawback as I would usually do things by myself rather than ask for help. However, I’ve been changing that pattern as I’ve come to recognize that asking for help builds community and shares the responsibility of accomplishing a task. It’s actually so much more humbling to ask for help than to do it on my own all the time. It’s still a work in progress for me but one I’m more aware of thanks to my dad.

3) Family is everything: Since living with my dad I’ve been able to see much more clearly how he shows his love towards his family.Whenever I returned home for long periods of time I would walk on the beach with my dad. We established early morning walks as time for us to talk. This was my chance to ask him questions without distractions. It was during these walks that he shared how he regretted not spending more time with us kids as we were growing up because he was traveling. He admitted that his focus was only to provide for the family. As he’s become older and since my mom passed away I’ve seen a more tender side as he’s been more engaging with his grandchildren. I have come to appreciate how he shows his love for each of us in his own way thus releasing expectations of how I think (or would prefer) he should show it.

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4) Travel to learn cultures: I give credit to my dad for encouraging my gypsy spirit (although I know it’s not one he would take pride in accepting). I could remember traveling on an airplane since I was a little girl to visit family in Puerto Rico or travel to Latin America for a business/family trip. Our trips were about learning new cultures and seeing new sights, which I continue the tradition to this day. Traveling for me has always been a way of life and I am doing all that I can to incorporate it into my business and personal lifestyle. Because of my dad’s joy of traveling with the family I have been able to visit numerous countries and regions growing up and then found new places that I enjoy traveling to. I am grateful and very fortunate to have experienced this because I know many have not.

5) Stay focused: Throughout my life my dad only had employers working as a sales engineer for Latin American countries selling welding and then medical equipment. He began with Hobart Brothers shortly after leaving Cuba while living in Puerto Rico and remained with them for over 20 years until the business was sold. He then took over the company my mom started while I was young, Servitech Corp while she focused on building South Florida Medical Equipment, a family business. He loved selling these products and traveled extensively to share his knowledge with companies around Latin America and the US. His goals were always to provide for his family and stay committed with his tasks at hand. Although my path as an entrepreneur wavers as I figure out all the ins and outs of running my own business, I’m focused on creating a freedom based business that empowers others to release stress naturally. As he was able to stay focused and committed towards his goals in life, which has always empowered me to have goals and objectives within my life.

In summary I am grateful for the opportunity of living with my dad and the challenges I encountered while living there, both personal and professional. I’m grateful that I was able to be present with my mom as she transitioned and then supporting my dad however I could and still do. I’ve learned to view challenges as opportunities with lessons to learn while also taking responsibility for my life and what I can control. I know my dad does not view life in this manner yet that is his choice and I love him unconditionally even though I may not like all of his actions and viewpoints.

If you have been struggling with a relationship with your mom or dad which you know is holding you back in life, then I encourage you today to book a complimentary stress release session with me and share your story. Then we can identify a supportive plan to assist you in releasing your frustrations so you can lead a balanced life towards health and happiness.

Join me every Wednesday at 8:00 am in my Facebook group, Our Wheels of Life, for a new weekly meditation tip to help you feel more balanced within your life through your chakras. Or join my YouTube channel to receive the meditations each week in your email.

 

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Paty, La Mariposa

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Graduating through transitions!

As we head into summer many of us are celebrating the end of school with graduation ceremonies for our loved ones. Many schools choose to hold celebration ceremonies to honor each student for their hard work and dedication, regardless of what school year they are in. For parents it means their children are transitioning into a new grade with more responsibilities or a new lifestyle if they are headed towards college.

Within the school of life, however, there isn’t an official graduation day which identifies the ending of one chapter and the beginning of another. Life just continues to flow with daily responsibilities and challenges, with some feeling the weight of what we are learning or experiencing heavily on our shoulders or feeling it elsewhere in our bodies.

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The school of life is a concept I use and that of being a perpetual life student. This frame of mind encourages me to remain curious about each experience regardless of its intensity and it is one I share with my clients. Each problem I believe is really a challenge that requires you to approach it with curiosity and compassion for yourself and others. If you think of each situation as your worst teacher, say one that criticized you often or even slapped your hand whenever you didn’t answer correctly, then you will stay with the fear of doing the right thing that works for you. However, if you recall your most supportive teacher who listened and encouraged you to make your own decisions regardless of it was right or wrong you would be optimistic of making your own decisions. It works the same way in regards to looking at the problems you are facing. You have a choice of how you are going to react. If you choose to blame others, stay angry or upset when situations don’t go as you expect and focus on frustration because you can’t control others, you are prime for a breakdown either mentally or physically due to the stress you keep on yourself. Yet, if you view it as a student and you’re trying to figure out the best possible solution you can save yourself lots of pain and suffering, especially when you reach out to others for help.

Recently I was speaking with a new client about a problem she was facing. She was stressed about her current situation because she felt burdened about taking care of someone she wasn’t expecting to. Her anger carried into focusing all of her attention on this other person and neglecting her own self-care. Throughout our discussion I listened as she released, which she admitted she hadn’t shared with others before and then we identified at least one self-care technique she can bring back into her life in a realistic way.

After our discussion she received a stress release energy session and said she felt so much better and at ease. She admitted the knot in her throat was gone (talking and the energy release supported that) and she felt better, especially now that she had someone to release to and an activity to plan in her week.

The point is the problem didn’t go away that she was having but she found solutions that would help her manage the situation and release some of the stress she was carrying. Looking through the eyes of a student you become more powerful as you realize you have more options in front of you then the feelings that were holding you back.

By remaining locked in feelings of anger and resentment you actually give your power to others, whether they know it or not, yet when you problem solve and talk it out (not think it out for it mainly goes round and round without resolution) then you identify what is important to you, what are you able to control, and what are some solutions that you can bring to the surface that can help you move through the situation.

Stay curious regardless of what age you are and embrace the School of Life and the lessons it offers you every day.

To all the graduates, congratulations on your next venture and may you have continued success in all that you do.

Join me for meditation time every Wednesday at 8am for Facebook Live in Our Wheels of Life Facebook group, or watch the recording after.

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Paty, La Mariposa

Embracing change without fear

Change, do you embrace or fear it? 

Within my holistic healing practice change is a major reason my clients first come to see me because they admit they are unable to deal with their current situation. They share with me their fears about change happening in their lives which entail dealing with loss due to moving, losing a loved one or employment, relationship issues, etc. They explain how the loss, whether unexpected or they knew was coming, felt like they were knocked over by a tidal wave and they are still struggling for air. Transitions such as these are to be treated as as a trauma because it can cause the body and mind to react with either anger, disbelief, guilt, resentment or even feelings of numbness, shock.

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Other reactions to change can be anxiety, nervousness, insomnia, substance use, depression, and self-doubt to name a few. These are normal reactions to trauma through the freeze response as the person is unable to fight (verbally or physically) or run away from the situation.

Throughout our discussions we break down these responses to understand the core issue which is fear of the unknown. Before this situation or trauma happened life was going according to the plan that they created or rather expected. Therefore, when a big change or transition occurred they were left unprepared much like a storm coming unannounced and uprooting everything in its path.

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Can you relate to this?

However, change and transitions are a normal part of life. There is no guarantee that you will always have the same job forever or that your loved one will be present each day. By accepting that change is inevitable and it’s reality it can be easier to process life changes without feeling as though your heart is going to jump out of your chest or your world is falling apart for the rest of your life.

My earliest memory of a life transition was when I was 12 years old and I felt my life had changed forever because my parents lost the mortgage to the house I grew up in due to a miscalculated business plan. We didn’t have a family discussion, we didn’t have a choice, we were just told that we had to leave the house by a certain date. I fell into a deep depression, so deep I even considered suicide. However, the thought of my parents finding me kept me from following through because I didn’t want them to be sad about losing me too. It took me years to move through the resentment I held against my parents for taking my house away, although I never realized I resented them, especially my father, until someone else pointed it out. That experience has taught me that all I can control is myself and my reactions towards changes and transitions. By looking within I was able to take hold of that resentment and let it go (with lots of support of course) because it was eating me up inside.

If you’ve been following me for awhile then you know my life has been filled with abundance and losses of all kinds, just like I know yours has. Change has been a constant in my life due to the choices I’ve made (lots of moving) and also losing loved ones through various reasons. Once again a life transition is happening in my life as I will be moving into my own apartment in South Miami. Honestly, I have mixed feelings because for the last 3 years I have been living with my dad in his beautiful apartment facing the ocean and I have been hesitating on moving because I was unsure of where I wanted to go (US or Latin America). Finally, the universe has pushed me out of my nest and into a new experience. The hesitation comes from fear of not having it all figured out financially as I have been putting all of my resources and attention into my business and I wasn’t sure if staying in Miami was where I wanted to be. Yet I also knew it would be in both of our best interests for me to leave and be independent again. So, I pushed through my fear and doubts by choosing a date (I wanted August but the universe decided June) by when I wanted to leave.

Life is about how we handle transitions and situations, meaning your reaction towards them and the faith in the universe. By viewing change as inevitable and ensuring you have support, such as friends and family or other outlets to release pent up stress then you’ll be able to accept change easier.

As I have identified the root causes of my fear I am now able to embrace any kind of change easier and most importantly by accepting it. I’ve regressed at times when change has been unbearable by feeling angry, lonely, and frustrated yet by holding onto these feelings and blaming others or situations only hurts me. The same applies to you.

If you’ve been struggling with changes in your life and you’re unsure how to embrace it, let’s discuss it through a complimentary stress less phone conversation. I’m here to support you with a step-by-step plan to balance your life, embrace your power, and focus on health.

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Paty, La Mariposa

Going Live tomorrow

Excuse the intrusion so early into the week but I wanted to share an important announcement. Tomorrow, I’m breaking through my fear of showing up by doing 2 live videos via social media. Excited?? You should be because you get to participate in discussions with me about forgiveness and energy medicine. Details below!
Part of my fear of showing up is due to insecurities since childhood of being laughed at or worse not taken seriously when I had something to say (I was bullied often). So, now I’m taking imperfect action and know I will improve each time I show up.
Join me in taking imperfect action through a fear you have.
I’ve been wanting to do videos for awhile now but I keep coming up with excuses for why I come with excuses of not doing more videos (which I’ve been asked to do). So, tomorrow night I’m taking an idea out of my head and presenting it for the world to see, releasing attachment of who will see. I want to show up in the world with my message of releasing stress through natural healing techniques.
As my tribe of mariposas, people constantly transforming towards greater love, I would love your support and honest feedback. Please show up tomorrow or put it in your calendar to watch for later. Share my message with others if you find it useful. Most importantly, let me know what you thought of my webinar and what more would you like to hear (inspire me).
Tomorrow I’m excited to share that I’ll be doing two live videos.
Video 1; First I’ll be doing a Facebook Live at 9am about forgiveness through an inspiring Facebook group called Lightworkers Rise Up, click here  to join. .
Video 2: In the evening I will be doing a Youtube Live video with a slideshow presentation on Energy Medicine, Real or Woo? It’s at 7pm. Click here to join live.
I’m really excited about stepping out of my comfort zone so I can gaze into your eyes through whatever screen you’re using. It’s an amazing concept.
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Love and hugs,

Paty,  La Mariposa  ​​​​​​​

Let’s discuss ways to include more self-care into your life.
I’m here to support you with a step-by-step plan to balance your life, embrace your power, and focus on health.

Grateful for Mom every day

It wasn’t too long ago that around this time I would be searching online for flowers to send to my mother for mother’s day and a heartfelt card, regardless if I was home or traveling. Now, I stand on the beach where she used to walk and imagine her next to me. My mother passed away in 2014, 3 years after her body battled cancer and chemotherapy. Every day I give thanks that I was by her side when she took her last breath. Every day that she was in the hospital I would give her Reiki to help her body relax.
Reiki, Japanese energy healing technique, has empowered me to be more in tuned with my body and become more sensitive to energy. Usually I feel my mom (and other loved ones who’ve passed) when I sit outside on the beach (or nature). I close my eyes and just breathe. Sometimes I cry and sometimes I smile. Whatever I feel I just allow it to be without judgement as I know it’s my body releasing pent up stress, otherwise known as energy.
Recently, I began to work with a new client who lost an adult child a few years ago and is really struggling. The pain has been intense yet this client is finding hope in various ways, which I support. One of the techniques I will be teaching this person is Reiki as it allows the body to heal naturally by removing blocked energy. I will be teaching my client Reiki remotely, a new opportunity that the universe recently placed in my lap.
In 2013 I became a Reiki teacher as I was on a mission to share this amazing healing technique with whoever wanted to learn. I was inspired by Reiki to help with stress and grief after learning the first level in 2009. Honestly the reason I learned was to help Yoli while she was finding the best way, her choice were natural techniques, to defeat the cancer that was consuming her body. Since then,I have been incorporating it into my life and my profession with a long break after Yoli passed. Yet once I began to understand Reiki the more I embraced being a teacher.
My first Reiki workshop was alongside my friend and yoga instructor, Libby in Costa Rica. It was a successful weekend workshop on a quiet beach on the Costa Rican coast. My parents came as my mother was taking the class and to support me on this endeavor. I had the honor of teaching her Reiki and Libby taught her yoga. It was amazing on so many levels.
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That’s my mom to my right.
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My mom back right. She gave it all. 🙂

To me, Reiki is a spiritual love connection. It doesn’t always offer a direct explanation yet it helps the body to chill so it can heal however that needs to be. It helped me move through my grief whenever I lost a loved one or was struggling through emotional stressors. Now, I’ve created my own reality with a successful healing business so I can continue to serve people in a way that’s unique and beneficial too so many people. I know my mom would be so proud of me. Shoot, I’m super proud of myself. 😉

So this Mother’s Day we (brother, his family, and my dad) will raise a glass of wine in my mother’s honor and celebrate her life. I’ll send her a blessing into the heavens along with a kiss.
This mother’s day give a mother (your mother or any mother you love) a big hug and say thank you for her dedication to ensuring you are fed, taken care of, and loved.
How will you celebrate Mother’s Day this year?
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Pass this email along to someone who may benefit from it as we all need love everyday!
Paty, La Mariposa
PS. Join me on YouTube Live on May 17 at 7pm as I talk about Reiki; real or woo woo. Click here to join live on May 17.
If you’re in Miami join me for my upcoming Reiki 1 class in English and Español.

9 ways to empower your communication

How often have you become stressed out because you felt misunderstood or not listened to by someone? 
Communication, a major trigger point for stressful situations, is the foundation for how we interact with others. From individual conversations to talk shows; radio programs; clubs dedicated to public speaking; business meetings, etc.
Communication entails both verbal and non verbal ways. It’s not always what you say that hurts, it’s your actions that truly define the truth. certain rules still apply when it comes to interaction through words.
A tip I learned years ago while as an undergraduate that I repeat on a consistent basis is “Say what you mean, mean what you say, and don’t say it mean.”
What’s your  favorite tip that’s helpful when you communicate?
Let’s review ways to empower your communication so you can improve any relationship, especially with yourself. 
1. What you know
Education is all about learning the basics and to be an effective speaker is to practice what you’ve learned. Take classes at school, such as public speaking or drama to learn techniques. Or read more articles like this or watch videos related to communication. Most importantly get out there and make mistakes, then learn from them.
2. Listening
It’s just as important as asking questions. This is probably the hardest technique in communication. Take a moment to remember the last time you were conversing with someone and just as you were getting really into the story the person interrupted you to interject his/her own opinion. Truth is we all want to be heard and sometimes we also compete with others to ensure that we feel important. Fact is just allow the person to finish the conversation without personal interjection unless you have questions to encourage more details, will really allow the person to feel listened to.
3. Eye Contact
Put down that electronic gadget and look at the person speaking to you. By looking directly at the person who’s talking then you show you are fully engaged and that you care about what the person has to say to you. There’s a lot to say when it comes to directing your attention to your audience with an eye-catching gaze. Regardless if you are speaking to an individual or a group of people, it’s important that you keep your focus.
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4. Just kidding

Let your funny bone have a go at it when speaking to others. A little bit of humor can do wonders to lift the tension or worse boredom when talking. However, be mindful that your joke doesn’t offend others or is hurtful. Sarcasm is really the truth masquerading as a joke.

5. Join a tribe
Interaction is all about mingling with other people. By joining groups of people you feel comfortable in then you’ll get a lot of ideas, as well as observing how others communicate and learning new techniques you can incorporate.
6. Me, Myself, and I
Listening to the sound of your own voice while you practice what you want to say to an individual or a group of people will assist you in ensuring you are speaking from your truth. By speaking out loud what’s in your head you’ll hear what’s really true and what you’re projecting to others. With so many ideas and thoughts in our heads it can be overwhelming yet writing or speaking it out will clear it up in no time.
7. Say Cheese
A smile says it all much like eye contact. There’s no point on grimacing or frowning in a meeting or a gathering, unless it’s a wake. You can better express what you’re saying when you smile.
8. A Role Model
Find at least one or two people in your life you have listened to when they’re at a public gathering or maybe you’ve conversed with 1-1. Talk to them or observe how they communicate with others and identify techniques you would like to incorporate into your own life. I bet that they did the same thing so don’t think you’re “stealing” their moves. Rather you’re taking what seems possible for you and adapting it to your own way.
9. Preparation
Make the best out of preparation rather than just scribbling notes in a hurried panic. Some people like to write things down on index cards, while other resort to being a little more silly as they look at their notes written on the palm of their hand (not for clammy hands, please). This is helpful especially if you are facing a challenging discussion with someone. You can make a pointer list to identify all the points you want to discuss and why it’s important for you. Find the technique that works best for you and stick to it.
Communication is not just what you say but how you present yourself. These tips will help ensure you are present and focused regardless if you are speaking to one person or many people.
What was your favorite tip?
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Thank you for being a part of my expanding family.

Love and hugs,

Paty,  La Mariposa  ​​​​​​​


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Let’s discuss any blocks you may have in your life or struggles with communication.
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What truly motivates you?

A few weeks ago I wrote about happiness being an intention which in turn assists you in being motivated to do more things to be in a constant state of happiness.
Happiness is an emotion, energy in motion, which entails steps as you continue striving for it. Yet sometimes our happy balloon get popped when situations out of our control occur which can trigger us and cause us to feel down, unhappy or really angry. These are feelings too which can be dispersed when we remind ourselves (thoughts) that we want to be happy and focus on the feeling we most want.
I have identified 8 questions that are insightful about what motivates you towards happiness. You can answer them out loud or journal them. I invite you to reply to this email as I’d love to hear from you and share with me your responses to these questions.
1. What do I really want?
This is a very general question. I’ll make it easy for you. I’ve broken this question down into 7 aspects that I call the holistic balance. I use this in my coaching program, however, I’ll share it with you so you too can identify what you want.
Click here for the holistic balance.
Find what you want for each aspect and then choose 3 aspects you want to focus on, then create small, tangible steps that are easy to accomplish. The form will be emailed to me which I can then share with you by email and/or a complimentary call to go over the form.
Click here for my online calendar to schedule your transformation consultation.
2. If I were to focus on change would it be for myself or someone else?
Change is a part of our lives and it happens on a daily basis. For example, a break in any routine is a change. The point of my question is to ensure if you are purposely changing any aspect of yourself for you or based on someone else’s expectations.
For example, if you wanted to release (I don’t like to use lose because it’s about releasing it so it doesn’t come back) weight, would you do it for your personal health or to shut up others who criticize your size?
By identifying who you are really wanting to change for and what you want to release in your life then you will understand your source of motivation.
3. What will I gain if I change?
We are pleasure seeking individuals. Therefore, if we want to change it’s because we are wanting to improve ourselves. Having goals is great yet knowing the purpose of the outcome is even better. Back to the releasing weight example; what will improve when you let go of your excess weight? By focusing on your gains then you will have more motivation to change.
4. Am I comfortable with how I’m living and being?
There’s always the easy way and the right way when it comes to deciding what goes with what you want to change. Being comfortable can occur in various ways. For example, you can be very comfortable in your current relationship with your partner yet you’re frustrated because the relationship is not growing, you don’t feel passion or you can’t remember the last time you had fun together.
My point is that by being too comfortable it creates a fear that to change will cause an unhappy and painful disruption to your life, therefore you create numerous excuses as to why change can’t happen. Final question, what’s the worst thing that can happen if you were to change your comfort level?
5. Have I done enough for myself?
Taking care of you is a must and a top priority. This entails identifying in each aspect what is one thing you can do for yourself everyday. For example, in releasing weight you will want to incorporate healthy yet yummy foods, discover exciting ways to move and raise your heartbeat, and taking time to be grateful for each day. If you’re not putting yourself as number 1, then who are you putting first?
6. Am I happy where I am today?
If you answered no, then what would it take to say yes? What needs to happen for you to feel happy? Remember happiness is an emotion, therefore it’s not what you do that’s important, it’s how you feel. So, if you think you need more money, a better partner, etc. then think again. These are irrelevant because it all starts with where you are right now. Yes, having more money may make certain situations easier and more comfortable but it doesn’t necessarily make you happier.
7. What motivates me?
There are so many ways that can make everyone happy and that is what makes each of us unique. Finding your motivation may be different from another person, so STOP comparing yourself to others. We are all on our own journey in this life and we walk our path in different ways.
Tip: Create a collage of what brings you happiness or a vision board. You can do this on poster board or pinterest / Instagram (please share it with me). By finding images and words that instill happiness in your life then you will find what motivates you. It could be your family, friends, your purpose on this earth, etc. Plus it helps if you put this collage in a place you see everyday so it reminds you of what brings you happiness.
8. What really makes you, You? 
Who you define yourself to be is incorporated from the day you were born and all the experiences you’ve had up to now. We have all experienced going through “phases” as though trying on different costumes figuring who we want to be like. Who you really are comes down to your values. Do you value community? Honesty? Love? Integrity? Motivation? Balance? Etc. Identify at least 3 values that make up your foundation and focus on activities that really draw them out. If you don’t know, then research (google it) “values” and identify 3 key values you want to incorporate more into your life.
In conclusion, by answering these 8 questions you will have a clearer idea of what motivates you. Once you know what motivates you then it’s about making small steps towards the goals you want to accomplish. However, the best support comes from those you surround yourself with. So create a community, call upon people who you know will support you or contact me and let’s work together on building you up today for a healthier and happier you.

Thank you for being a part of my expanding family.

Love and hugs,

Paty,  La Mariposa  

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Let’s discuss the holistic balance assessment once you have completed it.
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Happiness is an intention

I found another happy place last Friday, March 17 as I attended the first annual World Happiness Summit in Miami during the day. Then I sat amongst hundreds of others as we listened to Sri Sri Ravi Shankar speak about meditation and happiness. Both events were energizing and filled with laughter, as well as, meditations. I was so moved and empowered by both events, plus all of the people that I met. I’m such a groupie when it comes to events, workshops, classes, etc. as they offer me more tools to lift myself in life plus I then share them with you, my tribe. They fill me up in ways that keep me on a natural high for days to come, plus inspire me with many more ideas.
Are you also a big fan of workshops and seminars?
I want to highlight some yummy nuggets of wisdom which I hope will inspire you as well.
From the World Happiness summit
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  • No one person or situation has the power to take away my happiness
  • Love, happiness, knowledge strengthens self and increases vibration within the body
  • Stress is not the problem, it’s the lack of recovery from stressful events
  • Energy comes from our consciousness and flows into thoughts and then feelings then action
  • Energy has patterns
  • Make the choice to be happy no matter what
  • March 19 is now the official day of happiness in Miami
  • Happiness is an intention
From Sri Sri’s discussion on meditation
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Sri Sri Ravi Shankar, Founder of Art of Living
  • Ask yourself, What can I do for the world?
  • Waiting causes restlessness (or anxiety) unless you can focus on meditation which calms the mind
  • Learn to slow down and discover beauty all around you
  • Meditation allows you to gain control of your mind
  • Meditation is about being still
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How will you share happiness? 

Reply and share your favorite nugget that I shared with you as I’d love to hear what resonated with you.

Pass this blog along to someone who may benefit from it as we all need happiness everyday!

Thank you for being a part of my expanding family as we share happiness together.

Love and hugs,

Paty,  La Mariposa 

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Happy St. Patrick and Patty’s Day!

Today we celebrate a tradition many know little about (including me) other than green is prominent (In Ireland blue is the official color) and often alcohol (this is true in US and Ireland). However, I’m not going to talk about that tradition. I’ve changed my mind. I’ve created a video that goes into discusses what I do celebrate my life!!

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Thanks for watching my video and staying around with me. I would like to share one of the tools I use for support my continued healing. On March 24 I will be assisting in an online summit, the Whole Detox.

Join me and countless others in a 21 day holistic detox. We’ll work on getting to the root of our issues and clearing them in fun and creative ways while in a supportive environment.

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Thank you for being a part of my expanding family.

Love and hugs,

Paty,  La Mariposa  

“Change your thoughts and you change your world.” Norman Vincent Peale

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Depression hits again

On Sunday I had just finished working with a new client (very excited) and was waiting on my brother to call me so I could meet up with him and his family to spend time with the kiddos, my niece and nephew. Almost an hour passed and I didn’t hear from him. I knew they were dealing with an issue and would contact me when they were finished. Yet while I was waiting at my office and listening to a business podcast (it’s an entrepreneur thing), depression creeped in. It came out of nowhere as sad thoughts soon led to tears starting to flow.

Crap! (not truly what I thought but thought it best to keep this G rated) I immediately sent a text to my brother and told him I wasn’t feeling well and was heading home. En route thoughts of every imaginable reason as to why I was sad came crashing into my head space and the tears just flowed. I raised the windows, adjusted my sunglasses, turned off the radio, and spoke out loud the thoughts running through my mind. Just hearing them seemed like they carried less weight than what was happening in my head. Within the commute back home (about 35 minutes) I cried out my sadness and feelings of unworthiness. As I turned the corner heading towards the apartment I made a plan to feel more focused and centered once I was home for I didn’t want to continue wallowing in this misery.

Truth is I’ve been struggling with depression since as long as I could remember. I was “diagnosed” with depression when I was 18 years old and prescribed Paxil which I took for a few months. Yet I didn’t like how I felt when I was on them so I stopped and found other ways to cope with it.

Throughout my life I have fallen into bouts of depression which could last hours or days. The depression would be triggered by thoughts or sometimes after a traumatic event such as a loss of my loved ones. For example, I was triggered on Sunday because I was on an amazing high which was then popped by limiting beliefs. Doubts and insecurities, especially limiting beliefs of not feeling worthy or good enough are the struggles I have been dealing with throughout my life. Since I became an entrepreneur they have become stronger as I have been facing them head on.

I checked my face before I got out of the car and said to myself in the mirror: “Paty, it’s okay to cry. Now it’s time to move forward by listening to happy music and organizing your room and home office. You got this. You’re worth it and you are loved by many.”

With a sigh and a prayer to my spiritual guides for strength I moved on with the rest of my day.

Feeling sad and depressed is normal, it becomes a problem when it lingers for more than a day.

Fact is depression does have a habit of creeping in from time to time, especially just when things appear to be going so amazing.

Have you experienced that before?

I didn’t fight the depression or blame myself for feeling the way I was, I just allowed it to flow out of my system. Then I used my depression kicker of listening to happy music and cleaning up my living space so I didn’t feel more chaotic. My other favorite depression kickers are watching funny movies, going for walks outside, dancing, dropping orange essential oil in my diffuser, and calling uplifting friends.

If you struggle with depression what are ways that you move through it?

Leave a comment of your favorite tips.

Pass this along to someone who may benefit from it as we all need support everyday!

Love and hugs,

Paty,  La Mariposa  


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