Putting Yourself First Is A MUST

Transform Your Life and Balance Your Life Holistically

Mariposas Transformation Online Group Program 

Do you ever feel like you are:

– Isolated and trying to do your personal development all alone?

– Going from workshops to books to audios, without a foundation or scalable plan for your holistic wellbeing?

– Walking a path yet unsure if it’s the right direction for you?

– Feeling frustrated because your thoughts seem to overwhelm every step you take?

– Running around in circles, feeling like you’re taking action but STILL not getting where you think you should be?

I have felt your pain!!

Time and time again these questions and feelings surfaced for me as I felt unbalanced, without purpose, and sadly felt alone more often than not.

In a world with billions of people in it, I found it to be such a sad experience because honestly there’s no need to experience this loneliness.

Truth is we live in developed countries yet sometimes it doesn’t feel as such because we’re constantly being told through marketing and society what we need to do, say, or wear in order to feel fulfilled and enough.

I have come to find out that instead of fighting against the status quo and wearing masks all the time to take my power back by coming to a place of inner peace, trust, and self love exactly how I am.

Within my personal practice and using my holistic balance assessment I’ve been able to arrive at a place of doing less and being more as I have released feelings of GUILT so I can focus on what’s more important; practicing self care and self respect. I have arrived at a place of feeling completely fulfilled and satisfied.

I’ve learned that I don’t have to do this inner work alone for there is immense power of health and healing, when we connect with a group of likeminded people, in a safe space and supportive environment.

I now apply these experiences and tools into my professional practice and have been leading my clients individually through my signature system called Mariposas Transformation with remarkable success.

I’ve taken a step forward and created a group online program so I can offer this to more people and to enhance the community I’ve been building.

The program is open to a small group of 10 people as I really want to create an intimate setting so everyone can be heard.

Let’s join together – combining our right and left brain, our hearts, and spirituality with holistic wisdom, fun, and inspiration in a confidential and healing environment.

Are you ready to put yourself first for a change?

Are you ready to embrace and trust your own body’s wisdom and to nourish all parts of who you are?

You’ll excel in this group program if:

  • You have an intention and vision for your calling towards wholeness and wellbeing as you define what it means to you.
  • You’ve made the leap and declared that you are making yourself a priority
  • You’re excited about listening and speaking to others who are going through similar struggles and exchanging tools.
  • You’re prepared to commit to a group process that is only limited by the amount of energy and commitment you put into it.
  • You’re willing to let go of limiting beliefs, old stories, and toxic patterns so you can do what you must to become who you really are.
  • You’re finally ready to devote yourself to your own unique and authentic path.
  • Both inner and outer components of your nourishment need renewed attention.
  • You’ve worked with me in the past and you’re ready to do this in a group program.

This group program is NOT right for you if:

  • You’re at the very beginning of discovering your motivation behind creating a life that you love and don’t yet have an understanding of your personal development
  • You don’t like working in a group and community setting…you prefer one-to-one support.
  • You’re not coachable and are unwilling to receive feedback and insights to help you get out of your own way.
  • You’re not interested in being vulnerable and truth telling about your journey.

I’ll be launching the program May 21 which is a super duper special day as it marks the day Yoli, my sister transitioned 8 years ago. I dedicate this launch to her.

Doors for the program will be closing May 15th so respond to this email today to secure your spot.

Your Investment:

Option 1: Pay in full by May 8, $450 and receive a complimentary remote energy healing session which you can schedule anytime.

Option 2: Recurring payment plan: $100 a month, beginning when you register for the program and continuing that same day every month.

First 3 people who sign up will receive an individualized guided meditation specific to your needs.

If you have any questions please feel free to hit reply and let me know.

Love and hugs,

Paty Mariposa  ​​​​​​​

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Invitation for Beta Testers only!

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If you’ve been following me via this newsletter or social media you know by now that I’ve had a recent accident, a simple trip and fall with devastating results. Due to this accident I fractured a bone in my left wrist, scraped my right elbow, and a hole in my right knee which became infected and painful.

For over a week my life had been temporarily disrupted.  I’m so thankful for the Affordable Care Act which provided me with health insurance for it paid for many of my health care bills. Last week I dedicated most days to solely taking care of myself so my body can heal. During this down- time I chose to really dig in as to why this accident happened. I believe everything happens for a reason and I knew there was a message within this accident.  

While I focused on my self-care I opted not to see clients for an entire week. Yet I saw  what can happen to my life and business if I continue along the path that I’m on, which is shrouded in fear and unknown. I have many ideas yet just as many insecurities which are preventing me from really launching Mariposas the way I want to see it fly. 

One of those amazing ideas has been to create a signature program based on my holistic balance 7 aspect assessment. If you’ve worked with me, then you know what I’m talking about. 

I’m choosing now to move past fear and take the path of imperfect action. Therefore on May 21st I have chosen to launch my signature online group program for 6 months. This day has significant meaning for me because it’s on this day 8 years ago Yoli, my older sister, transitioned and so I dedicate this Beta Launch to her.

The jist of the program is that for 6 months we will meet bi-weekly via Zoom, a confidential video conferencing program, so you can join from where you are in this beautiful world, headsets are highly encouraged. I’ll continue to share more within the next few weeks. I’ve decided to open this program to a limited amount of people to ensure an intimate setting.

This accident reminded me about the importance of community and of reaching out for help. When we connect with a group of like-minded people in a safe and confidential environment there is an intense power of health and healing, for we realize that many of the thoughts in our heads are also shared by others.

There’s never a right time to be hurt or sick which increases our levels of stress. Therefore, by investing in yourself, learning tools for self care, and embracing a community of supportive people you can  achieve a life with peace of mind and happiness regardless of the chaos that may happen in your life.

Curious to learn more?, I’ve opened up my schedule to offer 20 minute discovery calls to verify if this is the right program for you! 

Love and hugs,

Paty,  La Mariposa  ​​​​​​​

Schedule your discovery call today

My Recent Trip To Cuba

Earlier this year I set the intention to travel to Cuba again. I traveled there for the first time in 2006 on my own for 6 weeks to see it through my eyes and understand it for myself. My parents, both born and raised in Cuba yet met and married in Puerto Rico left their country at different times but for the same reason, to leave a dictatorship that took away their democratic way of life. They each suffered in various ways, my mom watched her father’s business taken away from him and then forced to work within his own shop as a state employee. My father saw many of his friends, including his brother arrested for protesting their civil liberties then each one leave the country.
Growing up in Miami I heard numerous stories of devastation and sadness about a country they loved that was taken over by a man they grew to hate which led to disgust for Cuba. However, I wanted to learn about the people, the food, and the music that I grew up with in my bi-cultural home.  Traveling in Cuba for the first time was an amazing and enriching experience. I vowed to return.
So, this year I stated it was time. I reached out to people and other resources but found it challenging so I turned it over to Spirit. Then in October, my birthday month, I received an email from a colleague announcing a fundraiser for an upcoming trip to Cuba. I almost fell off my chair. I immediately reached out to the organization to apply and was approved within a day.
 Within two weeks I was able to raise over $1100 out of $1500 which covered my flight, lodging, and food while in Cuba. I also used monetary donations to take over 50 pounds of much needed supplies. From October 25-30 I volunteered with Cuba One, a non-profit founded by Cuban Americans, and numerous others to assist Cubans with donations of toiletries, bedding, over-the-counter medicine, and much more as they focused on recuperating from Hurricane Irma, a category 5 hurricane that battered many small communities along the coast.
Being in Cuba and helping however I could was moving and inspiring. Yet, the hope and dedication the communities had of coming together to help one another was incredible. It shows how in spite of any crisis situation the human spirit is stronger and can overcome anything. Spending those days in Cuba with a group of other like-minded individuals was one of the best birthday gifts I’ve ever received and I’m thankful to all those who helped me make it possible.
CubaOne representatives will continue to provide support and material to the Cubans after this trip. They’ll be returning in a few months to view the work we did and continue projects we started. If you can continue to assist with a monetary donation, which is tax deductible, rest assured the money will go straight to the communities that have been affected by the hurricane. Donate now by clicking here.
Explaining OTC meds to an elderly woman
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Ophelia with her new bed and sheets, her bed was moldy and house almost collapsed
Ophelia with her new bed and sheets
Helping rebuild a community center in Bolivia
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Thank you for being a part of my expanding family.
Love and light,

Paty, La Mariposa, Hernández

From vision to reality!

I’ve always been a very creative person which is a blessing and also a challenge, which as a business owner this can be awesome or detrimental.

Finding a balance involves taking small steps towards any direction and pushing through fear that comes sneaking up. This also entails asking others for help and to be held accountable so I don’t b.s. my way out of it.
Can you relate to this?  

The fear I face numerous times about moving forward such as following up with potential clients or networking is because I fear rejection. I know it stems from childhood when I would be rejected for asking my wants in various ways.

This is a constant battle and one I face on a daily basis. I often give myself pep talks in order to move through the fear and once I do I am gifted with a new client or confirmation that I did the right thing.

My intention when I began Mariposas Holistic Healing in 2013 was to create a healing center where people can come and receive a variety of wellness services. I’ve had the fortunate opportunity of working in 3 different wellness center, 1 in New Mexico and 2 in Miami, one of which I’m still a practitioner in. I still have my vision of establishing my own center yet for now I’m content renting space others have. I’m thankful for each center as they have shown me different ways of working with other practitioners and within the center itself.

I primarily sought the centers so I can have a room to work out of. As I began to teach Reiki I knew that the center I would work in had to have a teaching space, which is what brought me to Gables Optimal Health Wellness Center where I now work and teach out of. Last year  I was inspired by Sheri Kaplan, founder of the Holistic Fair and Wellness Clinic in Hollywood and finally had the opportunity to participate. This year I spent about 2 months traveling up to Hollywood and offered my chakra balancing services in the clinic. It was a wonderful experience yet honestly I stopped attending because I was tired of the commute.

So, I thought about how I can manifest it in Miami. This idea has been brewing for many months until finally I took action and began to co-create it with my colleague and fellow practitioner Lina Collazos.

I’m so excited to announce that on September 7 we are having our grand opening of our Natural Wellness Clinic which will be offered 2x a month in Coral Gables.
I share this with you, especially those out of Miami, because I encourage you to take imperfect action towards an idea that you’ve been thinking about in your mind for a long time. I believe in your ability so much that I’m offering the first 10 people who respond to this email or book online a complimentary Manifestation Coaching Call, regardless of your location. You’ll end the call with at least one action step you can confidently take immediately.

All you have to do is click here for my booking calendar and choose the Manifestation Strategy Session.

With the right support you too can turn that idea into an action that transforms your vision into reality. You’ll release the need to be perfect and appreciate the steps you take.

Imagine talking with someone who will totally listen to you blurt about your idea and then empower you to create an objective that will make it real.

For those of you in Miami, please join me this Thursday, September 7 or Sunday, September 17 at the Natural Wellness Clinic. During the day you can come browse at no cost unless you choose a service from one of our gifted practitioners or products from our vendors. Then stay Thursday night as I lead a chakra balancing group Reiki meditation. Sunday afternoon we will have special guest Marley, of Meditation with Marley.

  • The first 10 people who sign up will also receive a remote energy session to clear any blocks that have come up during our conversation.

​​​​​Love and light,

Paty, La Mariposa, Hernández

The 4 agreements!

I remember coming across the Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz while visiting my sister during her healing journey 8 years ago. I recall how I sat on her couch and read through the book that teaches how following these 4 agreements will release you from endless suffering.
I also remember at first thinking, yeah right, but then over time as I stepped more into my spiritual awakening I found these to be true. Throughout the years these agreements got lost in my quest for more information yet it was time for a reminder. The universe, I believe, put these agreements, rather this image, back on my path as a reminder to focus only on what I can control, which are my thoughts and actions.
Do you believe the universe (God) puts people and ideas in our path?
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Once I saw this image, I knew it was a reminder to be more present as I assess who I am and where I want to go. To ensure I kept it in plain site, I immediately printed it out and hung it on my wall where I could see it every day. I’m happy to note that I’ve done very well in my self-empowerment progress of not taking things personally. Granted there are still times that someone can cut me to the bone with their words yet I’m more aware of my reaction and the pain doesn’t last as long.
The agreement I’m currently working on is about being impeccable with my word, being authentic. As a healer and counselor, I’m very much aware of what I say and to whom. Most importantly though it’s about how I’m showing up. For example, when I offer suggestions or recommendations they are of resources and techniques that have worked for me at some point or other in my life.
Authenticity is about being honest and not portraying someone I’m not. When I teach Reiki, I share my truth that my self-Reiki daily practice may only be a few minutes of practicing the Reiki principles and 1 or 2 hand positions or it can be a full session that lasts 10-15 minutes.
So now, I pass these on to you, my tribe, as a reminder that self awareness is a daily practice towards self-empowerment. Transformation is a lifelong journey and when you have learned your lesson, then it’s time for you to transition. Harsh, but true! What’s important is finding a spiritual practice that causes you to look within and above for assurance you’re on the right path.
What spiritual practice do you incorporate on a daily basis that helps you stay present?
If you’re struggling with finding a spiritual practice or techniques to assist you in being more present, then I invite you to a complimentary discovery session. With over 17 years of experiencing listening to thousands of people expressing their stressors, I’ve been able to identify at least one technique that can be of support regardless of your situation.
Enjoy your life and every minute you’ve been given because today is a gift as tomorrow is not guaranteed. Take a moment today and choose a time to speak with me by phone so we can discuss your struggles with spiritual practice. Click here and find the time that works for you.
Feel free to reply to these emails as I’d love to hear from you. Pass this email along to someone who may benefit from it as we all need love everyday!

Thank you for being a part of my expanding family.

Paty, La Mariposa

PS. Within a few months I’ll be releasing a 21 day Reiki Refresher course via a private Facebook group. Stay tuned for more information or respond to this email
Balance your Chakras Tip of the Day
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Location: Our Wheels of Life Facebook page
Time: 9:00 AM (EST)
Cost: FREE

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5 tips to help you focus better!

“Focusing is a challenge for me!”
 
“I’ve been told I have ADD.”
“I get distracted easily.”
“I can’t focus and it’s stressing me out.”
Do any of these ring a bell for you? 
Have you stated one or more of these statements?
Honestly, I can say that focusing has always been a challenge for me yet it wasn’t until recently that I really understood why for me and my clients, especially as this issue has been mentioned by many them as a main stressor for them.
In order to help myself and my clients, I set out to research why we struggle with focusing. I have found that there are numerous reasons for our inability to concentrate which range from brain and hormonal imbalances and physical and mental health issues. Within my research I found a condensed article form Healthline that I’ve included by clicking here that discusses 24 reasons why we can’t concentrate.
A few of these reasons, such as anxiety, insomnia, adjustment disorders, depression, migraines, PTSD, and stress are ones my clients specifically struggle over which then impacts other areas of their lives. However, another one not mentioned here is boredom.
If any of those stressors, even boredom, are reasons you have identified for why you can’t concentrate then I want to share a few tips that I have learned to improve focus.
5 Focusing Tips
1st tip: Maintain a regular and consistent sleep schedule. Identify how much time you really need to wake up feeling refreshed and ready for your day, 6-8 hours.
2nd tip: Eat a colorful array of foods; especially blueberries, fresh caught fish, organic produce as much as possible or speak to your holistic professional for a mind enhancing supplement. (Check out Whole Detox for more information, click here)
3rd tip: Incorporate at least 5 minutes of meditation/mindfulness practice a day. Here’s a 1 minute meditation that you can use to bring your mind back into focus.
4th tip: Find your reason why you are doing the work that you so you feel more motivated to do the most challenging and boring tasks.
5th tip: Block schedule the tasks you don’t like and balance them with ones you do.
Block scheduling? What’s that?
For those who don’t know what block scheduling is, this is a tip that has been helping me to really stay focused (still a work in progress). To put it simply, each day you assign specific tasks and times for you to work on those items that you struggle with. Let’s say you know your most productive time is in the morning, so schedule the most time-sensitive or most challenging activities at this time.
For example, I block at least 2 hours a month towards bookkeeping, not my favorite task but one that needs to get done. I recently created a calendar, titled block calendar, with a different color within my google calendar in which I identify the tasks I know I need to do each week. Then once I complete the task, such as bookkeeping, I celebrate with a predetermined reward, perhaps taking myself out to eat, calling a friend, taking myself out somewhere fun, visiting my godson and niece or ending my work day early and laying in my hammock watching a comedy or reading a book.
It’s still a work in progress in regards to staying focused on tasks that are a bore to me yet I’m determined to ensure that I have fun and continue to create the life that I love.
Speaking of the life that I love, I want to welcome a new group of Reiki 1 and 2 students that I had the honor of teaching last weekend in the Gables Optimal Health workshop room where I see clients. They are a reminder of why I want to continue finding support for my challenges which I know you, my tribe, also struggle with.
Eric, Susan, Priscilla, Yvette, Daniela, and Alexandra
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Reiki 2: Vanessa, Lina, and Mimi
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So, to recap, if focusing is an issue for you, first begin by understanding the reason why. Is it a hormone deficiency, lack of nutrients, or boredom?
If you’re unsure I’d love to help you identify which one so let’s start with a complimentary stress release session which you can book by clicking here.
Then get organized at the beginning of your work week or day by identifying the tasks you need to accomplish, both fun and not so fun. Prioritize them and then schedule them within your calendar by blocking specific times that you can dedicate to that task.
Finally, reward yourself after you accomplish the most challenging and boring tasks. This can range from time on social media, to shopping, texting, going out for a walk, etc. Remember though put this in time increments too because if not you can get “lost” or spend too much time on other activities.
I hope this was helpful. Please respond and let me know what your favorite tip was or any ahas you received from this. Pass this along to someone who may benefit from it as we all need love everyday!
Thank you for being a part of my expanding family.

Paty, La Mariposa

PS. Remember to join me for a Facebook Live every Wednesday morning (or when you can) at Our Wheels of Life Facebook page for a stress less tip of the day.

Mindfulness with Syrian Refugees!

Last Saturday, July 8, I had the pleasure of collaborating with Elizabeth, one of my Reiki students and Lai Fan an acupuncturist I met recently to offer mindfulness techniques to 3 Syrian families. Although we met only for an hour or so, everyone left feeling so happy and grateful to have shared in this beautiful experience.
It all began when Elizabeth asked if I would be interested in putting together a mindfulness class for Syrian refugees that were living in South Florida. The families are supported by Gulf Coast Jewish Family & Community Services for Trauma. Of course I said yes, because I had been itching to volunteer for sometime and thought it would be an interesting experience. The event was titled, Mommy and Me Mindfulness event as it was geared for moms and children. It would be the first of its kind to be held through this organization in South Florida and hopefully not the last.
Elizabeth and I chose mindfulness activities that could be easily explained with few words because we expected that the women would speak little English and weren’t sure if we would have an interpreter. One of the activities was to have Lai Fan put seeds in a specific ear point which promotes stress release. Apart from myself and Lai Fan, no one had any idea about ear acupressure. If you haven’t experienced this I highly encourage you to try, especially since seeds are used and not needles. Plus, you can keep the seeds in place for up to 2 days so you can self-soothe and then take the bandaid off.
We decided to have Lai Fan put the seeds on myself and Elizabeth first so everyone could see how the experience was. She then went around the room to put the seeds on the others. Everyone, except two kids said yes.
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Lai Fan and Elizabeth
Fortunately, Lai Fan’s husband spoke Arabic and so he was our unofficial interpreter which we were so grateful for, especially the Syrian women. We began the class with an icebreaker I learned while serving in the Peace Corps, called Move like this. The idea is that each person says their name and creates a movement, then everyone repeats it. It’s a great way to begin any class with laughter and silliness. Then we dove into the mindfulness practice.
As we only had an hour we chose 5 mindfulness techniques which we also reviewed at the end of the class.
  1. Ear acupressure
  2. Deep belly breathing (expand your belly as you inhale and suck in with exhale)
  3. Inner Ease Technique
  4. Mindful Eating
  5. Connecting to your body with tapping on specific acupoints
Of the 5 techniques most said they will practice the deep breathing and mindful eating tips.
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Teaching inner ease technique
The highlight of this day was being able to collaborate and share simple techniques to assist others who are feeling stressed, which after all is my life’s mission. Going across borders, we offered an afternoon of engagement, education, and a chance to try something new. We all left feeling fulfilled and content This was a fun opportunity and experience to share with people on a beautiful Saturday afternoon.
Volunteering your time in any capacity is an opportunity to give to others without expectation. It truly warms the heart and builds upon community.
Have you had an opportunity to volunteer this summer? If so, please share with me as I’d love to hear from you.
Pass this blogs along to someone who may benefit from it as we all need love everyday!
Thank you for being a part of my expanding family.

Paty, La Mariposa

PS, Remember to join Our Wheels of Life, Fun in July Challenge

Celebrate your independence

Can you believe it? We are now more than half way through 2017! If you haven’t yet, go ahead and take a few moments now or schedule some time to reflect on your intentions for when you began the year and where you are now. Don’t complicate it, simply think about what you stated and where you are now.
Have you accomplished what you set out to do? Or are you still feeling as though you’re gasping for air?
I’ll be honest, I’m not a big fan of new year goals, but I do make it a point of creating a theme for the year. For 2017 it’s “limitless abundance and reflecting back I feel that I’m doing very well as my business is growing, I’ve been offered a part-time position within social work, I’ve moved into my own apartment, my physical health is great, and I’m dedicated to doing the best that I can.
As we move forward into July and approach Independence Day let’s focus on gratitude for what we do have, the freedoms, the abundance, the family, the opportunities, etc. Yes, it’s not perfect, however, when we focus on what we do have that’s going well then it begins to dim what we are struggling with. Afterall light does outshine darkness. It’s also about continuing to take imperfect action. If you don’t like something or someone, what are you doing about it? Complaining or taking action?
All seriousness aside, this July I want to put some fun back into the summer with a Fun in July Challenge 2017 (#funinjuly2017) which will happen within Our Wheels of Life Facebook group. The challenge is for each day you do something fun and post it, either via video or picture in the group. I created this challenge as a push for me to ensure that I have more fun and to be creative. So I double dog dare you to join me and have more fun as we embrace our inner child’s silliness.
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Feel free to reply to this blog as I’d love to hear from you. Pass this blog along to someone who may benefit from it as we all need love everyday!
My purpose is to empower you on your healing journey and my mission is to offer you health-related insights, practical tips, inspiration and stories that will support you in living balanced towards a happy and healthy life as you embrace your joy and purpose.
Thank you for being a part of my expanding family.
Paty, La Mariposa

Inner Ease technique

I have to admit that one of my favorite movies is Ever After with Drew Barrymore. I admire her role as an independent woman who focuses on her extended family, and is dedicated to do what’s right even when others think she’s wrong.

The movie is a remake about Cinderella yet it definitely isn’t appropriate for kids under 13 years old. Anyways, there’s a scene in which Drew is about to make a bold entrance into a large group of people and she says Just Breathe.

Those words are an excellent reminder that all we could control is our breath and not the reactions of others when faced with challenges. Recently I was reminded of that as I transitioned into a new living space had so many unexpected changes thrust upon me. There were numerous times I would become overwhelmed and had to remember just to breathe. Fortunately, I’ve been offering Reiki at least a few times a week which has also helped me relax.

However, there’s another technique I practice either with or without Reiki called the Inner Ease Technique from the Heart Math Institute. I teach this technique to my clients who struggle with anxiety and aren’t attuned to Reiki.

After discussing it with a client a few days ago I was inspired to share it on my weekly Wednesday morning Facebook Live stress less broadcast in my public Facebook group called Our Wheels of Life, click here to join.

Now, I want to share it with you for your self-care tool box. Click here to watch me sharing how to practice the technique.

PS if you’re in Miami next Saturday then come and receive a donation based 5 minute chakra balance chair session at the Coconut Grove Farmer’s market. All of the funds will benefit the American Association of Hispanic Health Coaches. We are a non-profit organization of Hispanic health coaches dedicated to improving the lives of Hispanic, especially children and reducing chronic health issues.

Feel free to reply/comment to these blogs as I’d love to hear from you.

Pass this blog along to someone who may benefit from it as we all need love everyday!

Paty, La Mariposa

5 Lessons I Learned From Living With Papi

Just the other day I heard someone groan, “Oh, I sound just like my mother/father.” Have you uttered these words before? This is a fear many of us have yet it’s important to really take an honest look at what it is we fear. Within my life I’ve heard this time and time again and I believe it’s fair to say that most if not all have mommy/daddy issues that cause them to struggle within their personal relationships. Granted our parents (or lack of) greatly impacted our lives as we grew up, especially if we held certain expectations of them or compared them to other parents. Honestly, I used to say the same thing until life circumstances and personal choices brought me back to living with Papi, my dad the man I had emotionally struggled with for many years. So, those daddy issues I had were about to be faced head on and it was my responsibility to identify the tools and resources so I could move forward.

As the youngest child of 3 I tethered most to Papi during my childhood, always feeling as though I was daddy’s little girl. I would always envision us spending time together and craved his attention whenever he was home from a business trip.  Yet that dream was shattered when the childhood home I grew up in was taken by the bank due to a bad business investment my parents took part in. For years I resented and blamed Papi for losing my home (never occurred to me to inquire how he felt about it) and then how he focused more on work than being with his family.

I didn’t realize then that my expectations of my dad and how I wanted him to be clouded my vision of what was reality. I knew in many ways I was very much like my dad, and was also told by others how similar we were in looks. For years, I would become upset whenever someone mentioned our similarities until I decided to look more closely at what characteristics we shared. Since 2014 I have been living with my dad which has been both a blessing and a challenge yet one I appreciate now every day for the lessons I have learned. Just this month I took the next step to move out on my own as we are both more emotionally and physically stable within our personal lives.

As I celebrate Father’s Day I am grateful for the opportunity the universe offered me and to learn how to accept him just as he is. I’ve taken 5 top lessons I’ve learned from Papi, which once drove me crazy yet now I realize how much they have positively influenced me. Most importantly though, the challenges I have faced while living with him from his sometimes egotistical behavior to his negative attitude towards life have encouraged me to focus more on compassion then frustration. After all, being annoyed with him for how he looks and experiences life is my problem and he has chosen how he wants to live his life even if I can’t always understand it.

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I thank him for being one of my teachers in life and am so grateful that he’s still with us today. I love him unconditionally even though I don’t always like or appreciate his actions or words.

5 lessons learned from Papi

1) It’s okay to talk to strangers: For as long as I could remember, I always saw my dad striking a conversation with just about anyone. We could be in the line at the airport, grocery store or eating a meal and he would begin to speak about anything and everything. He was so engaging with everyone. So naturally it was a skill I adapted to as I’ve always engaged with children and adults while traveling, waiting in line or just out and about. I’ve met amazing people by talking about the weather or comment on whatever they had in their hands. Simple conversations sometimes led to long lasting friendships. As a primarily solo traveler it’s been these conversations that have enhanced my trips and encouraged me to withdraw out of my sometimes introverted shell.

2) Delegate: I would always get so annoyed (sometimes still do) with my dad when he would call upon anyone (sometimes various times a day) in our family to help him even with the most simplest tasks. Seriously, I would think to myself as I pounded a nail into the wall or fixed something around the house, why couldn’t you just do it. Recently I learned that he would even pay the neighborhood kids to teach us how to ride our bikes during our childhood. Now instead of getting annoyed I actually marvel at how this man could delegate just about any task that he didn’t want to do and people would say yes. As I became more independent in life I took pride in being able to do just about anything myself yet that has also been a drawback as I would usually do things by myself rather than ask for help. However, I’ve been changing that pattern as I’ve come to recognize that asking for help builds community and shares the responsibility of accomplishing a task. It’s actually so much more humbling to ask for help than to do it on my own all the time. It’s still a work in progress for me but one I’m more aware of thanks to my dad.

3) Family is everything: Since living with my dad I’ve been able to see much more clearly how he shows his love towards his family.Whenever I returned home for long periods of time I would walk on the beach with my dad. We established early morning walks as time for us to talk. This was my chance to ask him questions without distractions. It was during these walks that he shared how he regretted not spending more time with us kids as we were growing up because he was traveling. He admitted that his focus was only to provide for the family. As he’s become older and since my mom passed away I’ve seen a more tender side as he’s been more engaging with his grandchildren. I have come to appreciate how he shows his love for each of us in his own way thus releasing expectations of how I think (or would prefer) he should show it.

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4) Travel to learn cultures: I give credit to my dad for encouraging my gypsy spirit (although I know it’s not one he would take pride in accepting). I could remember traveling on an airplane since I was a little girl to visit family in Puerto Rico or travel to Latin America for a business/family trip. Our trips were about learning new cultures and seeing new sights, which I continue the tradition to this day. Traveling for me has always been a way of life and I am doing all that I can to incorporate it into my business and personal lifestyle. Because of my dad’s joy of traveling with the family I have been able to visit numerous countries and regions growing up and then found new places that I enjoy traveling to. I am grateful and very fortunate to have experienced this because I know many have not.

5) Stay focused: Throughout my life my dad only had employers working as a sales engineer for Latin American countries selling welding and then medical equipment. He began with Hobart Brothers shortly after leaving Cuba while living in Puerto Rico and remained with them for over 20 years until the business was sold. He then took over the company my mom started while I was young, Servitech Corp while she focused on building South Florida Medical Equipment, a family business. He loved selling these products and traveled extensively to share his knowledge with companies around Latin America and the US. His goals were always to provide for his family and stay committed with his tasks at hand. Although my path as an entrepreneur wavers as I figure out all the ins and outs of running my own business, I’m focused on creating a freedom based business that empowers others to release stress naturally. As he was able to stay focused and committed towards his goals in life, which has always empowered me to have goals and objectives within my life.

In summary I am grateful for the opportunity of living with my dad and the challenges I encountered while living there, both personal and professional. I’m grateful that I was able to be present with my mom as she transitioned and then supporting my dad however I could and still do. I’ve learned to view challenges as opportunities with lessons to learn while also taking responsibility for my life and what I can control. I know my dad does not view life in this manner yet that is his choice and I love him unconditionally even though I may not like all of his actions and viewpoints.

If you have been struggling with a relationship with your mom or dad which you know is holding you back in life, then I encourage you today to book a complimentary stress release session with me and share your story. Then we can identify a supportive plan to assist you in releasing your frustrations so you can lead a balanced life towards health and happiness.

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