Lessons learned from Hurricane Irma

Hurricane Irma is now going in the history books as the most bizarre storm in this century. She was completely unpredictable, enormous, and catastrophic for many in her path.
South Florida and then the entire state, Georgia, and the Carolinas braced for what was assumed to be the worst catastrophe because of her status as a Category 5. Some even stated she was a category 6 at one point.
The storm for many triggered memories of past hurricanes, like Hurricane Andrew 25 years ago, fears of the unknown, panic, and much more. Yet, for all the hype of how horrible it was going to be, many people came together to pray, volunteer, and help one another.
Yes, I know the news focused on the scariest moments yet social media focused on the community support. Until power went out and charging my cell phone became more problematic, I was able to keep track of the hurricane, resources, and support systems via social media.
I would post messages of hope, led prayer circles, and stayed in contact with loved ones.
For me, this hurricane brought a renewed sense of community, support, and faith. Even though I’m still without power I’m so grateful for so much. Also, without internet or tv I’ve had more time to sit back and process this entire experience has been like for me.
Hurricane Irma Lessons learned
  • Group prayer can shift storms if it’s in the highest good​​​​​​​
  • Daily self-Reiki helps me to remain calm even during the most critical times
  • Listening to my intuition and staying in Miami was a positive choice
  • Feeling over prepared is a much better feeling than underprepared
  • Releasing worry and trusting the universe to provide has been positive
  • Living without power is so much better than being without food or water
  • Communities grow stronger after a crisis
  • Self-care is important during storms such as taking time outs, going for walks, self-reiki, and listening to calming music
  • Being with my family was the best gift during this storm
  • Think about ways to be the least stressed and take action
  • Focus on moment to moment situations that I can control and release the rest
  • Be more mindful of my words, especially if I start to complain
  • Find ways to assist others even if it’s just to send a kind text or message
  • Appreciate the luxuries I do have and that others offer, such as external batteries to watch a movie, beer offers
  • Stay outside more to meet my neighbors and engage in small talk
  • Reschedule people and events if feelings of stress begin to rise
  • Offer support through messages, Facebook lives, and free resources, such as www.heartmath.com/freeresources for emotional support
  • I still believe that everything happens for a reason, even if I or we don’t always know what that is at the time
Since Irma I’ve been riding my bike and walking places more because I honestly don’t want to spend time waiting in lines for gas. The heat has absorbed some of my hunger so I’m eating less and smarter.
This weekend I’ll be volunteering my time in Homestead to help clean up the debris that has affected the area. I won’t be able to head all the way down to the keys or leave the country as of this moment but I am finding ways to give back locally.
If you were impacted by Hurricane Irma in any way please respond to this email about lessons learned or any experience.
Thank you for being a part of my expanding family.
Love and light,

Paty, La Mariposa, Hernández

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Preparation and prayer during Hurricane Irma.

Even before Hurricane Irma was en route towards Florida through the Caribbean I was already beginning to feel the ground moving beneath me.
This month was set (and still is) to be the most productive and business focused in a long time. I’m feeling more and more confident about my path as a business owner and healing potential. I’ve been receiving new clients from various directions and i have various projects and collaborations in the works.
Yet, just when I felt the most confident situations beyond my control began to unravel. My virtual assistant has been unable to work for me because she’s endured countless health issues during her second pregnancy. The partner I was working with to establish my new project, Natural Wellness Clinic, is no longer at the Gables Optimal Health Center.
Now, hurricane Irma is shifting every day as she moves towards the US. Last night I led a prayer through Facebook Live for the Heavens to hear our plea and shift Irma to the right so we receive less damage than what’s broadcasted.
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I know prayer is not enough just like simply wishing for something to happen. Action is also needed and for the past few days I’ve taken steps to prepare myself, my family, and the tenants who live in the properties I manage for my father. I’ve also cancelled appointments and activities a few days before and after the storm so I can focus on the situation at hand.
I also just enlisted to be on the American Red Cross volunteer list because I know regardless of how the Hurricane comes through there will be damage and loss. I want to be on the front lines offering others who are struggling more than myself.
This storm mirrors my inconsistency in my life and also dedication to help others. I feel confident we will be okay and my decision to remain in Miami despite pleas from loved ones was the right one.
All I ask of you is that you continue to embrace Hurricane Irma in love so she moves more to the right and dissolves peacefully into the ocean. Please also add Hurricane Jose who’s right behind her.
Thank you for being a part of my expanding family.
Love and light,

Paty, La Mariposa, Hernández

From vision to reality!

I’ve always been a very creative person which is a blessing and also a challenge, which as a business owner this can be awesome or detrimental.

Finding a balance involves taking small steps towards any direction and pushing through fear that comes sneaking up. This also entails asking others for help and to be held accountable so I don’t b.s. my way out of it.
Can you relate to this?  

The fear I face numerous times about moving forward such as following up with potential clients or networking is because I fear rejection. I know it stems from childhood when I would be rejected for asking my wants in various ways.

This is a constant battle and one I face on a daily basis. I often give myself pep talks in order to move through the fear and once I do I am gifted with a new client or confirmation that I did the right thing.

My intention when I began Mariposas Holistic Healing in 2013 was to create a healing center where people can come and receive a variety of wellness services. I’ve had the fortunate opportunity of working in 3 different wellness center, 1 in New Mexico and 2 in Miami, one of which I’m still a practitioner in. I still have my vision of establishing my own center yet for now I’m content renting space others have. I’m thankful for each center as they have shown me different ways of working with other practitioners and within the center itself.

I primarily sought the centers so I can have a room to work out of. As I began to teach Reiki I knew that the center I would work in had to have a teaching space, which is what brought me to Gables Optimal Health Wellness Center where I now work and teach out of. Last year  I was inspired by Sheri Kaplan, founder of the Holistic Fair and Wellness Clinic in Hollywood and finally had the opportunity to participate. This year I spent about 2 months traveling up to Hollywood and offered my chakra balancing services in the clinic. It was a wonderful experience yet honestly I stopped attending because I was tired of the commute.

So, I thought about how I can manifest it in Miami. This idea has been brewing for many months until finally I took action and began to co-create it with my colleague and fellow practitioner Lina Collazos.

I’m so excited to announce that on September 7 we are having our grand opening of our Natural Wellness Clinic which will be offered 2x a month in Coral Gables.
I share this with you, especially those out of Miami, because I encourage you to take imperfect action towards an idea that you’ve been thinking about in your mind for a long time. I believe in your ability so much that I’m offering the first 10 people who respond to this email or book online a complimentary Manifestation Coaching Call, regardless of your location. You’ll end the call with at least one action step you can confidently take immediately.

All you have to do is click here for my booking calendar and choose the Manifestation Strategy Session.

With the right support you too can turn that idea into an action that transforms your vision into reality. You’ll release the need to be perfect and appreciate the steps you take.

Imagine talking with someone who will totally listen to you blurt about your idea and then empower you to create an objective that will make it real.

For those of you in Miami, please join me this Thursday, September 7 or Sunday, September 17 at the Natural Wellness Clinic. During the day you can come browse at no cost unless you choose a service from one of our gifted practitioners or products from our vendors. Then stay Thursday night as I lead a chakra balancing group Reiki meditation. Sunday afternoon we will have special guest Marley, of Meditation with Marley.

  • The first 10 people who sign up will also receive a remote energy session to clear any blocks that have come up during our conversation.

​​​​​Love and light,

Paty, La Mariposa, Hernández

Cruisin’ with the family!

For the most part of this summer, except for a couple of weekend trips I have stayed focused in Miami so I could spend time building my business, be with my family, and enjoying my new apartment. Since moving into my new space I’ve actually felt more rooted, happier, and focused.
As much as I love traveling, I’m learning how to find a balance between it and staying settled. Part of my business plan is to travel because I love the idea of being somewhere new and getting away from my everyday routine, even if it’s just for a night or two.
What do you do to get away from routine?
Somehow August is turning into a traveling month and I’m so excited about the different trips. First I’ll be traveling with my family for a week long cruise to the West Caribbean. We’ll be visiting Mexico, Honduras, and Belize. Then I’ll be traveling with another friend to the mountains of South Carolina as I’ve been dreaming about being in the mountains for a few months now. The purpose of our weekend trip is to see the eclipse.
Finally, the last weekend of August I’ll be spending with a group of enlightened people who are seeking personal growth through Passionate Manifestation, the 2nd empowerment phase of Essence of Being, a 3 day workshop about bringing more abundance into one’s life. I have already taken this workshop and will be volunteering to staff. Yet even through volunteering one receives as one gives. This workshop is happening at the perfect time for me because I’m definitely coming into more abundance yet also facing many fears surrounding it.
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My preferred way of cruising
What was your summer highlight?
Point of this newsletter is not to boast about my upcoming trips but to share that vacations or getaways I believe are a necessary part of self-care, especially if you have a family. That being said, it’s also important to find opportunities for getaways or even staycations without the kids for even one night to ensure you rekindle your romance with your partner or have time for yourself if you’re single.
If the thought of this being selfish comes up then I encourage you to dismiss it immediately. It’s not selfish, it’s soulfish, as my colleague Michelle Alva states. She’ll be speaking more about this at our free event on August 27 in Miami. For those who won’t be available, join us on Mariposas Holistic Healing Facebook Live on August 27 at 5:30pm.
Remember, before you were a mother/father/Employee, etc. you were you with your own passions and dreams. So take some time to enjoy yourself, enjoy this life, and take a trip however that means for you without guilt or judgement. Release the guilt of always having to be together because honestly that’s not healthy either. The kids need time away from you as you need from them. It’s about practicing independency for when they do finally leave home.
If thoughts of guilt rise up then schedule a complimentary session with me and let’s discuss it so we can release it. Click here for my online schedule.
PS: People in Miami check out my upcoming Reiki 1 and 2 classes. For those outside of Miami let’s discuss how you can receive Reiki through my Reiki Love On program.
Love and light,

Paty, La Mariposa, Hernández

Celebrate your independence

Can you believe it? We are now more than half way through 2017! If you haven’t yet, go ahead and take a few moments now or schedule some time to reflect on your intentions for when you began the year and where you are now. Don’t complicate it, simply think about what you stated and where you are now.
Have you accomplished what you set out to do? Or are you still feeling as though you’re gasping for air?
I’ll be honest, I’m not a big fan of new year goals, but I do make it a point of creating a theme for the year. For 2017 it’s “limitless abundance and reflecting back I feel that I’m doing very well as my business is growing, I’ve been offered a part-time position within social work, I’ve moved into my own apartment, my physical health is great, and I’m dedicated to doing the best that I can.
As we move forward into July and approach Independence Day let’s focus on gratitude for what we do have, the freedoms, the abundance, the family, the opportunities, etc. Yes, it’s not perfect, however, when we focus on what we do have that’s going well then it begins to dim what we are struggling with. Afterall light does outshine darkness. It’s also about continuing to take imperfect action. If you don’t like something or someone, what are you doing about it? Complaining or taking action?
All seriousness aside, this July I want to put some fun back into the summer with a Fun in July Challenge 2017 (#funinjuly2017) which will happen within Our Wheels of Life Facebook group. The challenge is for each day you do something fun and post it, either via video or picture in the group. I created this challenge as a push for me to ensure that I have more fun and to be creative. So I double dog dare you to join me and have more fun as we embrace our inner child’s silliness.
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Feel free to reply to this blog as I’d love to hear from you. Pass this blog along to someone who may benefit from it as we all need love everyday!
My purpose is to empower you on your healing journey and my mission is to offer you health-related insights, practical tips, inspiration and stories that will support you in living balanced towards a happy and healthy life as you embrace your joy and purpose.
Thank you for being a part of my expanding family.
Paty, La Mariposa

Inner Ease technique

I have to admit that one of my favorite movies is Ever After with Drew Barrymore. I admire her role as an independent woman who focuses on her extended family, and is dedicated to do what’s right even when others think she’s wrong.

The movie is a remake about Cinderella yet it definitely isn’t appropriate for kids under 13 years old. Anyways, there’s a scene in which Drew is about to make a bold entrance into a large group of people and she says Just Breathe.

Those words are an excellent reminder that all we could control is our breath and not the reactions of others when faced with challenges. Recently I was reminded of that as I transitioned into a new living space had so many unexpected changes thrust upon me. There were numerous times I would become overwhelmed and had to remember just to breathe. Fortunately, I’ve been offering Reiki at least a few times a week which has also helped me relax.

However, there’s another technique I practice either with or without Reiki called the Inner Ease Technique from the Heart Math Institute. I teach this technique to my clients who struggle with anxiety and aren’t attuned to Reiki.

After discussing it with a client a few days ago I was inspired to share it on my weekly Wednesday morning Facebook Live stress less broadcast in my public Facebook group called Our Wheels of Life, click here to join.

Now, I want to share it with you for your self-care tool box. Click here to watch me sharing how to practice the technique.

PS if you’re in Miami next Saturday then come and receive a donation based 5 minute chakra balance chair session at the Coconut Grove Farmer’s market. All of the funds will benefit the American Association of Hispanic Health Coaches. We are a non-profit organization of Hispanic health coaches dedicated to improving the lives of Hispanic, especially children and reducing chronic health issues.

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Pass this blog along to someone who may benefit from it as we all need love everyday!

Paty, La Mariposa

5 Lessons I Learned From Living With Papi

Just the other day I heard someone groan, “Oh, I sound just like my mother/father.” Have you uttered these words before? This is a fear many of us have yet it’s important to really take an honest look at what it is we fear. Within my life I’ve heard this time and time again and I believe it’s fair to say that most if not all have mommy/daddy issues that cause them to struggle within their personal relationships. Granted our parents (or lack of) greatly impacted our lives as we grew up, especially if we held certain expectations of them or compared them to other parents. Honestly, I used to say the same thing until life circumstances and personal choices brought me back to living with Papi, my dad the man I had emotionally struggled with for many years. So, those daddy issues I had were about to be faced head on and it was my responsibility to identify the tools and resources so I could move forward.

As the youngest child of 3 I tethered most to Papi during my childhood, always feeling as though I was daddy’s little girl. I would always envision us spending time together and craved his attention whenever he was home from a business trip.  Yet that dream was shattered when the childhood home I grew up in was taken by the bank due to a bad business investment my parents took part in. For years I resented and blamed Papi for losing my home (never occurred to me to inquire how he felt about it) and then how he focused more on work than being with his family.

I didn’t realize then that my expectations of my dad and how I wanted him to be clouded my vision of what was reality. I knew in many ways I was very much like my dad, and was also told by others how similar we were in looks. For years, I would become upset whenever someone mentioned our similarities until I decided to look more closely at what characteristics we shared. Since 2014 I have been living with my dad which has been both a blessing and a challenge yet one I appreciate now every day for the lessons I have learned. Just this month I took the next step to move out on my own as we are both more emotionally and physically stable within our personal lives.

As I celebrate Father’s Day I am grateful for the opportunity the universe offered me and to learn how to accept him just as he is. I’ve taken 5 top lessons I’ve learned from Papi, which once drove me crazy yet now I realize how much they have positively influenced me. Most importantly though, the challenges I have faced while living with him from his sometimes egotistical behavior to his negative attitude towards life have encouraged me to focus more on compassion then frustration. After all, being annoyed with him for how he looks and experiences life is my problem and he has chosen how he wants to live his life even if I can’t always understand it.

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I thank him for being one of my teachers in life and am so grateful that he’s still with us today. I love him unconditionally even though I don’t always like or appreciate his actions or words.

5 lessons learned from Papi

1) It’s okay to talk to strangers: For as long as I could remember, I always saw my dad striking a conversation with just about anyone. We could be in the line at the airport, grocery store or eating a meal and he would begin to speak about anything and everything. He was so engaging with everyone. So naturally it was a skill I adapted to as I’ve always engaged with children and adults while traveling, waiting in line or just out and about. I’ve met amazing people by talking about the weather or comment on whatever they had in their hands. Simple conversations sometimes led to long lasting friendships. As a primarily solo traveler it’s been these conversations that have enhanced my trips and encouraged me to withdraw out of my sometimes introverted shell.

2) Delegate: I would always get so annoyed (sometimes still do) with my dad when he would call upon anyone (sometimes various times a day) in our family to help him even with the most simplest tasks. Seriously, I would think to myself as I pounded a nail into the wall or fixed something around the house, why couldn’t you just do it. Recently I learned that he would even pay the neighborhood kids to teach us how to ride our bikes during our childhood. Now instead of getting annoyed I actually marvel at how this man could delegate just about any task that he didn’t want to do and people would say yes. As I became more independent in life I took pride in being able to do just about anything myself yet that has also been a drawback as I would usually do things by myself rather than ask for help. However, I’ve been changing that pattern as I’ve come to recognize that asking for help builds community and shares the responsibility of accomplishing a task. It’s actually so much more humbling to ask for help than to do it on my own all the time. It’s still a work in progress for me but one I’m more aware of thanks to my dad.

3) Family is everything: Since living with my dad I’ve been able to see much more clearly how he shows his love towards his family.Whenever I returned home for long periods of time I would walk on the beach with my dad. We established early morning walks as time for us to talk. This was my chance to ask him questions without distractions. It was during these walks that he shared how he regretted not spending more time with us kids as we were growing up because he was traveling. He admitted that his focus was only to provide for the family. As he’s become older and since my mom passed away I’ve seen a more tender side as he’s been more engaging with his grandchildren. I have come to appreciate how he shows his love for each of us in his own way thus releasing expectations of how I think (or would prefer) he should show it.

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4) Travel to learn cultures: I give credit to my dad for encouraging my gypsy spirit (although I know it’s not one he would take pride in accepting). I could remember traveling on an airplane since I was a little girl to visit family in Puerto Rico or travel to Latin America for a business/family trip. Our trips were about learning new cultures and seeing new sights, which I continue the tradition to this day. Traveling for me has always been a way of life and I am doing all that I can to incorporate it into my business and personal lifestyle. Because of my dad’s joy of traveling with the family I have been able to visit numerous countries and regions growing up and then found new places that I enjoy traveling to. I am grateful and very fortunate to have experienced this because I know many have not.

5) Stay focused: Throughout my life my dad only had employers working as a sales engineer for Latin American countries selling welding and then medical equipment. He began with Hobart Brothers shortly after leaving Cuba while living in Puerto Rico and remained with them for over 20 years until the business was sold. He then took over the company my mom started while I was young, Servitech Corp while she focused on building South Florida Medical Equipment, a family business. He loved selling these products and traveled extensively to share his knowledge with companies around Latin America and the US. His goals were always to provide for his family and stay committed with his tasks at hand. Although my path as an entrepreneur wavers as I figure out all the ins and outs of running my own business, I’m focused on creating a freedom based business that empowers others to release stress naturally. As he was able to stay focused and committed towards his goals in life, which has always empowered me to have goals and objectives within my life.

In summary I am grateful for the opportunity of living with my dad and the challenges I encountered while living there, both personal and professional. I’m grateful that I was able to be present with my mom as she transitioned and then supporting my dad however I could and still do. I’ve learned to view challenges as opportunities with lessons to learn while also taking responsibility for my life and what I can control. I know my dad does not view life in this manner yet that is his choice and I love him unconditionally even though I may not like all of his actions and viewpoints.

If you have been struggling with a relationship with your mom or dad which you know is holding you back in life, then I encourage you today to book a complimentary stress release session with me and share your story. Then we can identify a supportive plan to assist you in releasing your frustrations so you can lead a balanced life towards health and happiness.

Join me every Wednesday at 8:00 am in my Facebook group, Our Wheels of Life, for a new weekly meditation tip to help you feel more balanced within your life through your chakras. Or join my YouTube channel to receive the meditations each week in your email.

 

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Paty, La Mariposa

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Embracing change without fear

Change, do you embrace or fear it? 

Within my holistic healing practice change is a major reason my clients first come to see me because they admit they are unable to deal with their current situation. They share with me their fears about change happening in their lives which entail dealing with loss due to moving, losing a loved one or employment, relationship issues, etc. They explain how the loss, whether unexpected or they knew was coming, felt like they were knocked over by a tidal wave and they are still struggling for air. Transitions such as these are to be treated as as a trauma because it can cause the body and mind to react with either anger, disbelief, guilt, resentment or even feelings of numbness, shock.

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Other reactions to change can be anxiety, nervousness, insomnia, substance use, depression, and self-doubt to name a few. These are normal reactions to trauma through the freeze response as the person is unable to fight (verbally or physically) or run away from the situation.

Throughout our discussions we break down these responses to understand the core issue which is fear of the unknown. Before this situation or trauma happened life was going according to the plan that they created or rather expected. Therefore, when a big change or transition occurred they were left unprepared much like a storm coming unannounced and uprooting everything in its path.

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Can you relate to this?

However, change and transitions are a normal part of life. There is no guarantee that you will always have the same job forever or that your loved one will be present each day. By accepting that change is inevitable and it’s reality it can be easier to process life changes without feeling as though your heart is going to jump out of your chest or your world is falling apart for the rest of your life.

My earliest memory of a life transition was when I was 12 years old and I felt my life had changed forever because my parents lost the mortgage to the house I grew up in due to a miscalculated business plan. We didn’t have a family discussion, we didn’t have a choice, we were just told that we had to leave the house by a certain date. I fell into a deep depression, so deep I even considered suicide. However, the thought of my parents finding me kept me from following through because I didn’t want them to be sad about losing me too. It took me years to move through the resentment I held against my parents for taking my house away, although I never realized I resented them, especially my father, until someone else pointed it out. That experience has taught me that all I can control is myself and my reactions towards changes and transitions. By looking within I was able to take hold of that resentment and let it go (with lots of support of course) because it was eating me up inside.

If you’ve been following me for awhile then you know my life has been filled with abundance and losses of all kinds, just like I know yours has. Change has been a constant in my life due to the choices I’ve made (lots of moving) and also losing loved ones through various reasons. Once again a life transition is happening in my life as I will be moving into my own apartment in South Miami. Honestly, I have mixed feelings because for the last 3 years I have been living with my dad in his beautiful apartment facing the ocean and I have been hesitating on moving because I was unsure of where I wanted to go (US or Latin America). Finally, the universe has pushed me out of my nest and into a new experience. The hesitation comes from fear of not having it all figured out financially as I have been putting all of my resources and attention into my business and I wasn’t sure if staying in Miami was where I wanted to be. Yet I also knew it would be in both of our best interests for me to leave and be independent again. So, I pushed through my fear and doubts by choosing a date (I wanted August but the universe decided June) by when I wanted to leave.

Life is about how we handle transitions and situations, meaning your reaction towards them and the faith in the universe. By viewing change as inevitable and ensuring you have support, such as friends and family or other outlets to release pent up stress then you’ll be able to accept change easier.

As I have identified the root causes of my fear I am now able to embrace any kind of change easier and most importantly by accepting it. I’ve regressed at times when change has been unbearable by feeling angry, lonely, and frustrated yet by holding onto these feelings and blaming others or situations only hurts me. The same applies to you.

If you’ve been struggling with changes in your life and you’re unsure how to embrace it, let’s discuss it through a complimentary stress less phone conversation. I’m here to support you with a step-by-step plan to balance your life, embrace your power, and focus on health.

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Pass this blog along to someone who may benefit from it as we all need love everyday!

Paty, La Mariposa

Grateful for Mom every day

It wasn’t too long ago that around this time I would be searching online for flowers to send to my mother for mother’s day and a heartfelt card, regardless if I was home or traveling. Now, I stand on the beach where she used to walk and imagine her next to me. My mother passed away in 2014, 3 years after her body battled cancer and chemotherapy. Every day I give thanks that I was by her side when she took her last breath. Every day that she was in the hospital I would give her Reiki to help her body relax.
Reiki, Japanese energy healing technique, has empowered me to be more in tuned with my body and become more sensitive to energy. Usually I feel my mom (and other loved ones who’ve passed) when I sit outside on the beach (or nature). I close my eyes and just breathe. Sometimes I cry and sometimes I smile. Whatever I feel I just allow it to be without judgement as I know it’s my body releasing pent up stress, otherwise known as energy.
Recently, I began to work with a new client who lost an adult child a few years ago and is really struggling. The pain has been intense yet this client is finding hope in various ways, which I support. One of the techniques I will be teaching this person is Reiki as it allows the body to heal naturally by removing blocked energy. I will be teaching my client Reiki remotely, a new opportunity that the universe recently placed in my lap.
In 2013 I became a Reiki teacher as I was on a mission to share this amazing healing technique with whoever wanted to learn. I was inspired by Reiki to help with stress and grief after learning the first level in 2009. Honestly the reason I learned was to help Yoli while she was finding the best way, her choice were natural techniques, to defeat the cancer that was consuming her body. Since then,I have been incorporating it into my life and my profession with a long break after Yoli passed. Yet once I began to understand Reiki the more I embraced being a teacher.
My first Reiki workshop was alongside my friend and yoga instructor, Libby in Costa Rica. It was a successful weekend workshop on a quiet beach on the Costa Rican coast. My parents came as my mother was taking the class and to support me on this endeavor. I had the honor of teaching her Reiki and Libby taught her yoga. It was amazing on so many levels.
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That’s my mom to my right.
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My mom back right. She gave it all. 🙂

To me, Reiki is a spiritual love connection. It doesn’t always offer a direct explanation yet it helps the body to chill so it can heal however that needs to be. It helped me move through my grief whenever I lost a loved one or was struggling through emotional stressors. Now, I’ve created my own reality with a successful healing business so I can continue to serve people in a way that’s unique and beneficial too so many people. I know my mom would be so proud of me. Shoot, I’m super proud of myself. 😉

So this Mother’s Day we (brother, his family, and my dad) will raise a glass of wine in my mother’s honor and celebrate her life. I’ll send her a blessing into the heavens along with a kiss.
This mother’s day give a mother (your mother or any mother you love) a big hug and say thank you for her dedication to ensuring you are fed, taken care of, and loved.
How will you celebrate Mother’s Day this year?
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Pass this email along to someone who may benefit from it as we all need love everyday!
Paty, La Mariposa
PS. Join me on YouTube Live on May 17 at 7pm as I talk about Reiki; real or woo woo. Click here to join live on May 17.
If you’re in Miami join me for my upcoming Reiki 1 class in English and Español.

9 ways to empower your communication

How often have you become stressed out because you felt misunderstood or not listened to by someone? 
Communication, a major trigger point for stressful situations, is the foundation for how we interact with others. From individual conversations to talk shows; radio programs; clubs dedicated to public speaking; business meetings, etc.
Communication entails both verbal and non verbal ways. It’s not always what you say that hurts, it’s your actions that truly define the truth. certain rules still apply when it comes to interaction through words.
A tip I learned years ago while as an undergraduate that I repeat on a consistent basis is “Say what you mean, mean what you say, and don’t say it mean.”
What’s your  favorite tip that’s helpful when you communicate?
Let’s review ways to empower your communication so you can improve any relationship, especially with yourself. 
1. What you know
Education is all about learning the basics and to be an effective speaker is to practice what you’ve learned. Take classes at school, such as public speaking or drama to learn techniques. Or read more articles like this or watch videos related to communication. Most importantly get out there and make mistakes, then learn from them.
2. Listening
It’s just as important as asking questions. This is probably the hardest technique in communication. Take a moment to remember the last time you were conversing with someone and just as you were getting really into the story the person interrupted you to interject his/her own opinion. Truth is we all want to be heard and sometimes we also compete with others to ensure that we feel important. Fact is just allow the person to finish the conversation without personal interjection unless you have questions to encourage more details, will really allow the person to feel listened to.
3. Eye Contact
Put down that electronic gadget and look at the person speaking to you. By looking directly at the person who’s talking then you show you are fully engaged and that you care about what the person has to say to you. There’s a lot to say when it comes to directing your attention to your audience with an eye-catching gaze. Regardless if you are speaking to an individual or a group of people, it’s important that you keep your focus.
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4. Just kidding

Let your funny bone have a go at it when speaking to others. A little bit of humor can do wonders to lift the tension or worse boredom when talking. However, be mindful that your joke doesn’t offend others or is hurtful. Sarcasm is really the truth masquerading as a joke.

5. Join a tribe
Interaction is all about mingling with other people. By joining groups of people you feel comfortable in then you’ll get a lot of ideas, as well as observing how others communicate and learning new techniques you can incorporate.
6. Me, Myself, and I
Listening to the sound of your own voice while you practice what you want to say to an individual or a group of people will assist you in ensuring you are speaking from your truth. By speaking out loud what’s in your head you’ll hear what’s really true and what you’re projecting to others. With so many ideas and thoughts in our heads it can be overwhelming yet writing or speaking it out will clear it up in no time.
7. Say Cheese
A smile says it all much like eye contact. There’s no point on grimacing or frowning in a meeting or a gathering, unless it’s a wake. You can better express what you’re saying when you smile.
8. A Role Model
Find at least one or two people in your life you have listened to when they’re at a public gathering or maybe you’ve conversed with 1-1. Talk to them or observe how they communicate with others and identify techniques you would like to incorporate into your own life. I bet that they did the same thing so don’t think you’re “stealing” their moves. Rather you’re taking what seems possible for you and adapting it to your own way.
9. Preparation
Make the best out of preparation rather than just scribbling notes in a hurried panic. Some people like to write things down on index cards, while other resort to being a little more silly as they look at their notes written on the palm of their hand (not for clammy hands, please). This is helpful especially if you are facing a challenging discussion with someone. You can make a pointer list to identify all the points you want to discuss and why it’s important for you. Find the technique that works best for you and stick to it.
Communication is not just what you say but how you present yourself. These tips will help ensure you are present and focused regardless if you are speaking to one person or many people.
What was your favorite tip?
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Love and hugs,

Paty,  La Mariposa  ​​​​​​​


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