Grateful for Mom every day

It wasn’t too long ago that around this time I would be searching online for flowers to send to my mother for mother’s day and a heartfelt card, regardless if I was home or traveling. Now, I stand on the beach where she used to walk and imagine her next to me. My mother passed away in 2014, 3 years after her body battled cancer and chemotherapy. Every day I give thanks that I was by her side when she took her last breath. Every day that she was in the hospital I would give her Reiki to help her body relax.
Reiki, Japanese energy healing technique, has empowered me to be more in tuned with my body and become more sensitive to energy. Usually I feel my mom (and other loved ones who’ve passed) when I sit outside on the beach (or nature). I close my eyes and just breathe. Sometimes I cry and sometimes I smile. Whatever I feel I just allow it to be without judgement as I know it’s my body releasing pent up stress, otherwise known as energy.
Recently, I began to work with a new client who lost an adult child a few years ago and is really struggling. The pain has been intense yet this client is finding hope in various ways, which I support. One of the techniques I will be teaching this person is Reiki as it allows the body to heal naturally by removing blocked energy. I will be teaching my client Reiki remotely, a new opportunity that the universe recently placed in my lap.
In 2013 I became a Reiki teacher as I was on a mission to share this amazing healing technique with whoever wanted to learn. I was inspired by Reiki to help with stress and grief after learning the first level in 2009. Honestly the reason I learned was to help Yoli while she was finding the best way, her choice were natural techniques, to defeat the cancer that was consuming her body. Since then,I have been incorporating it into my life and my profession with a long break after Yoli passed. Yet once I began to understand Reiki the more I embraced being a teacher.
My first Reiki workshop was alongside my friend and yoga instructor, Libby in Costa Rica. It was a successful weekend workshop on a quiet beach on the Costa Rican coast. My parents came as my mother was taking the class and to support me on this endeavor. I had the honor of teaching her Reiki and Libby taught her yoga. It was amazing on so many levels.
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That’s my mom to my right.
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My mom back right. She gave it all. 🙂

To me, Reiki is a spiritual love connection. It doesn’t always offer a direct explanation yet it helps the body to chill so it can heal however that needs to be. It helped me move through my grief whenever I lost a loved one or was struggling through emotional stressors. Now, I’ve created my own reality with a successful healing business so I can continue to serve people in a way that’s unique and beneficial too so many people. I know my mom would be so proud of me. Shoot, I’m super proud of myself. 😉

So this Mother’s Day we (brother, his family, and my dad) will raise a glass of wine in my mother’s honor and celebrate her life. I’ll send her a blessing into the heavens along with a kiss.
This mother’s day give a mother (your mother or any mother you love) a big hug and say thank you for her dedication to ensuring you are fed, taken care of, and loved.
How will you celebrate Mother’s Day this year?
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Pass this email along to someone who may benefit from it as we all need love everyday!
Paty, La Mariposa
PS. Join me on YouTube Live on May 17 at 7pm as I talk about Reiki; real or woo woo. Click here to join live on May 17.
If you’re in Miami join me for my upcoming Reiki 1 class in English and Español.
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Dreams and Inspirations Continue

August 13 is a date that will be forever etched in my mind and heart. It’s the day my former partner Joel took his life due to reasons he took with him. Joel suffered for many years due to a traumatic experience he had while serving in the military. We met while in a support group for veterans and dated until I chose to stay in Miami and he returned to his family in Colorado.

My heart weighs heavy with his loss and all those who loved him. His passing has empowered me to continue my healing work as he was very proud. Now he is another person who supports me on the spiritual side which is uplifting.

August also holds another important date for me August 27, the day I leave for a life changing experience to Nicaragua. For 3 months I will be an intern with Natural Doctor’s International and the final month I will be traveling around Nicaragua speaking with other healers. For the past year I have felt guided to take this trip and like many other things I do, I jumped feet first without too much thought because I know there’s a reason.

My goals while in Nicaragua are to improve my skills as a holistic practitioner and counselor through natural healing techniques to reduce stress. During this time I will also be maintaining my business as I continue to work with clients remotely and offering for the first time, Wheels of Life Chakra online course.

What I have learned throughout the losses I have experienced, beginning with my sister passing away 6 years ago, is that I have received so much support and opportunities because I have been more open to them.

All that I do in my professional life, I do with the emphasis that I would be offering these same tools and support to my loved ones who have passed along. I know they would have enjoyed many of the techniques I now practice which have expanded.

I’m excited yet nervous about what my upcoming trip to Nicaragua will bring. I’m thankful to all of you who have supported me in various ways. I look forward to sharing what I learn with you throughout my travels. I will continue to send out weekly newsletters about my work in Nicaragua and inspiration insights for you to also expand on.

Peace and love,
Paty, La Mariposa

My purpose is to empower you on your healing journey and my mission is to offer you health-related insights, practical tips, inspiration, and stories that will support you in living balanced towards a happy and healthy life as you embrace your joy and purpose.

Feel free to reply as I’d love to hear from you. Pass this blog along to someone who may benefit from it as we all need love everyday!

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For 8 weeks, beginning October 2 you will receive detoxes, recipes, information, affirmations, and guided meditations for each chakra so you can balance yourself towards health and happiness. There will be a private Facebook page for those who register and lots of free goodies throughout the course.

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Join our public Wheels of Life Facebook group for resources, tips, and support until the course begins.

Celebrating all Mothers

Mothers are women who dedicate their lives with unconditional love to their children

Growing up I used to love Mother’s Day as it was a tradition between my sister and I to make breakfast for our mom, buy her flowers, and make her a card. As I grew older and traveled more, the tradition lessened as I wasn’t physically present, so I would send her flowers or gifts and a card. Plus, I would always call her in the mornings because I knew it brightened her day.

Now, I celebrate Mother’s Day either at the cemetery or spending time with my family; father, brother, and his family. Although she’s gone, we still honor her and click our wine glasses to her memory. It has now been 2 years since she has passed,  yet it seems like yesterday when I was cooking for her and watching funny movies. I miss her everyday and am so thankful for her presence in my life. As my mother’s health decreased our roles reversed as I became the caretaker and she received. It was a truly humbling experience for both of us and I am grateful for it.

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Choosing to be a mother takes courage, dedication, and unconditional love among many other attributes. These are virtues that become stronger as both you and the child(ren) continue to grow. A mother, doesn’t simply mean biologically speaking as I know many mothers who have adopted, fostered or taken in children through various means.

I may not understand all the trials and tribulations a mother goes through because I have never given birth nor raised a child for long periods of time, yet I have worked with numerous women who are are so burnt out and stressed because they feel they have to be everything for everyone yet have forgotten to take care of themselves or worse, feel guilty because they want personal time.

The closest I have been to being a mother was in my 20s when I helped raise my ex-boyfriend’s young child for the 2 years we were together as the mother was unfit physically and emotionally. Being a mother in this respect and also in my career as a social worker, brought me to a new understanding of mothers, regardless of how children came to be a part of their lives. Now I’m the godmother of my 5 year old nephew and I take seriously the role of being present with him to the best of my abilities with the understanding that I take full responsibility of him in case something happens to my brother and his wife.

I believe the role of mothers or people with mother-like tendencies want to to ensure that the children in their care (teachers count too) are given unconditional love (may not like all that kids do, but love them regardless. Being a mother is one of the most challenging and rewarding roles because it entails taken on numerous responsibilities from meeting all of their needs; physical, mental, spiritual and emotional plus perhaps being a spouse, employee, student, caretaker, etc. Also, I have witnessed it is a role that never ends as children (myself included) usually return home for one reason or another.

As our world has become more industrialized and we require more needs to feel fulfilled, mothers have many more roles than before which is daunting. Most mothers I have seen rely on being superwoman, meaning you take care of it all without much help. However, that soon leads to burnout because you’ve taken on so much on your own without too much support. This can then lead to chronic illness, fatigue, headaches, digestive issues, etc. As the African saying goes,” it takes a village to raise a child,” meaning it takes everyone in the household, external family, and community to help mothers.

“Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare. Audre Lorde

This mother’s day I challenge you to find ways you can release some of your responsibilities, even for a day or two, and remember what it’s like to be a woman. What are ways you can love yourself unconditionally? Massage? A day to yourself? Chores done by others? Husband cooking and caring for kids? Family meeting to discuss chores delegation? Whatever it is ask for what you want, stop holding back what you truly want to say.

Allow yourself to be pampered by telling those around you what it is that would bring you joy and happiness on this day and everyday. This allows you to receive love and support which offers balance as it is more common within the roles of being a mother to give more than to receive.

Thank you for taking on the responsibility and role of caring for your children, our future, so they may grow up kind, loving, and peaceful into this world. I know you take this role very seriously and I appreciate you for all you do, just as I appreciated my mom while she was present with us.

Book a Healthy Check-In Session with me and let’s discuss how you would like to receive more love and support in your life. I’m here to support you with a step-by-step plan to balance your life, embrace your power, and focus on health.

Understanding Grief

Grief first took hold of my heart when my sister was first diagnosed with cancer in 2009, which changed our family forever. However, nothing compared to the loss I felt when she passed away in 2010 followed by my mother 4 years later, both due to cancer. Then when I thought I was doing well another shock occurred in August 2015 when my ex-boyfriend committed suicide, which has caused an intense pain that differed from the loss of my sister and mother.
Grief, I have learned can be experienced at anytime to help us cope with the sadness we feel inside. Contrary to what many people expect or hope for, there is not a time limit or sequence of events that have to happen. Grief is how we process our feelings internally and each person handles it differently. Even after 6 years since my sister, and best friend, passed away I still feel the dull ache which can cause me at times to crawl into a fetal position and sob intensely.  However, I have realized that the depth of that sadness has diminished with time. I have not forgotten, I have simply continued to live and embrace life as I know she would have. She is the reason I am on this path of natural healing.
Our emotions are energy, for how much impact they have on us depends on how much we give it. For example, when I first learned that Joel, my ex-boyfriend, had committed suicide I felt as though all the air had been sucked out of me. For the first two weeks I played conversations in my head and belittled myself of what I didn’t do or what I could have done better. Eventually, I realized how much I was hurting myself in this way and so I focused on staying busy and talking to others. I also brought out the tools I have learned throughout the years that have helped me move forward.

Moving forward through grief is a process and everyone has their own way. Growing through grief happens on a personal level yet the resources can be similar. According to Michael Caserta et al (2009), personal growth is strengthened through religion/spiritual(having faith in something higher than us), social support (friends, family, support groups, etc), healing therapies (Reiki, counseling, energy work, aromatherapy, etc), self-esteem(what you say to yourself), motivation (how you take one step at a time), and confidence(how you hold yourself up).

The resources I have found helpful within my grief work have been numerous. I also believe they are still present as they offer me signs they are near. I have also shared my feelings with friends and family while also taking time alone and crying wherever the mood hits if I feel I am in a safe place. Self-healing techniques, such as Reiki and meditation,  provide me with the comfort and peace as energy moves throughout my body.
Moving forward through grief is a part of the healing journey and I want to support you in a safe space and share with you the tools that have helped me.
Embrace your grief as you move forward with a compassionate guide while you release your frustrations and fears is comforting.
I’ll listen as you talk about your grief and stressors then together we will identify the resources and techniques that work best for you while moving forward along your healing journey yet still embracing the memory of your loved ones or situations.
Begin by completing this form and I will be in touch with you so we can talk about how I can support you on your healing journey.
Blessings and love,
Paty
PS. What have you found helpful to manage your grief? Please respond to this blog and share your techniques.
Blessings in love and health,
Paty Hernandez
Mariposas Holistic Healing